Stressed...

As I have told you all before, my in-laws are crazy. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it...they are nuts. Last night was one of those crazy nuts and once again, I have been accused of something I didn't do. I was so pissed...really pissed...so pissed, I ended up with a stomach ache the rest of the night (assuming it was my gallbladder!)....I have to admit though, I was proud of myself for not going on a binge eating spree! Sometimes I think I should just wake up in the morning and look at myself in the mirror and just say, Yep, it's all my fault. Holly

DON'T YOU DARE!!!!!!! (Unless, of course you want to say it sarcastically.......) I am sure it is NOT your fault. I too have a pile of crazy in-laws that have been driving me insane for 20 years. Last July, it all blew up in a very public way, and now the rest of my world finally understands that I was not imagining it all. I just try to avoid them when possible and took the stand that I would no longer be put into situations that make me uncomfortable with them. If I don't feel like attending their "events", I don't. When I have to see them, I am cordial, but refuse to get sucked into their craziness. My oldest daughter and I vent to each other and it really helps too. Good for you not to eat through the stress. Sorry to hear that it caused you pain though. A long walk (in the other direction from where they are) can help too. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone....... Have a better day! Dawn

Thanks Dawn. I wish I didn't have to attend their "events" but my husband is a middle of the road type of person. He doesn't like to cause problems....I was upset with him last night too, I felt he should have stuck up for me....oh well.....after 20 years you would think I would get used to it!! A long walk....definitely a good thing!! Thanks again, Holly

Are you sure that we did not marry brothers?????? I was upset with mine for a long time after July because in the end, he chose not to confront them about what they did. Although I still think he should have stood up for me, I now realize that he is unable to stand up to his mother, and I have learned to live with it. This is where the standing up for yourself comes in...... Walking, walking walking......... Dawn

I sooooooooo hear you here. But not with my inlaws (that was a battle 7 years ago though so been there too) but with my own parents. We have an ugly thing going on right now that of course "THEY" did nothing wrong and "I" of course once again am at fault for "THEIR" bad behavior. There are days I want to move away so badly to get away from both sides. I spent a week not so long ago fighting old habits over stress from "family". I would say don't let them get to you but I know how it is and no matter now much you say your not going to it always does... Family sucks.. period. The only people I can count on are my Hubby and Son and I say screw the rest of them... Felicia

In laws ... we all have them!! I am proud of you for not going back to stress eating! I have learned that I am the person in charge of my emotions. They (or anybody else) can try to set the tone but I set my own mood. I listen to Dr Joy; on the radio, and the one phrase that she has is "play stupid and be cheerful" Trust me it works. It almost drives others crazy when you are happy and they are not. hehehe Good luck, Tara