Having Lots of Problems...

Hey guys, I haven't and probably won't be on for awhile. I have had some problems and the major one right now is my husband and I have seperated. I have tried in this marriage for 4 years to get noticed and I just got tired of him pulling away from me when I tried to kiss or hug him, that is enough to kill a woman inside trust me. I am not happy and I need to be happy. My son and I have moved in with a friend of mine for now. I have agreed to continue the counseling but can't say that I haven't I already made up my mind. Just wanted to let you know I will be around but not so often. Happy Birthday to everyone that I have missed!! I would love to talk to you guys so I am leaving my cell number-502-376-0712. Love you guys!!! Hugs,

Hang in there and I am sure you have put a lot of thought into this. Stay strong and remember we are all here for you. Don't let this put a halt on your weight loss success. Don't turn to the food as comfort. You have worked so hard to get where you are, don't lose that edge. Thanks for letting us know what is going on and we will look forward to hearing from you when you get the chance to stop in and talk with us. Take care of yourself........Gay

HI Angela, I em very sotty for whAT YOUR GOING THRU ...LOVE YOU mARIA

Oh Angela my love!!! I am so sorry.. I know how hard this is for you. Went through it with 2 babies.. You can do it!! Hang in there and Pray.. makes all the differance in the world!!! luv you too Girl!!!! Luvs and Hugs! Tiff

Thanks for letting us know what's going Angela. We'll miss you while you are away for a while, but understand why you can't be here as much as you'd like. Just know we care and are here for you ANYTIME!!!!!!!! I hope the counselling will help you guys. Maybe this was the wake-up call your hubby needed.... Take care of yourself, please!! Susan

Oh, Angela. So sorry that you are going through this. I hope that things work out the way that you want them to. If it is continue the counseling and stay with your husband, or if it is to go your seperate ways. I wish you peace and joy in your life. Please know that we are here for you and if you ever need to talk to anyone, we are here. You can send me a PM or IM me. I'm here!!! Hugs to you, Tabby

Oh Angela, Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. We are here for you if you need to talk!! Hugs, Holly

Awww Angela, Sorry to hear of all your problems. I know how you feel about being in a relationship that you are not happy in. I have problems here at home myself with my husband but I am the one that is pushing him away. I feel I am not in love MOST of the time. I have only been married to him for 6 years and I know this marriage isn't what it should be. By lossing weight I am becoming a happier person but he is still a grump most of the time. I can't handle that. I like to have someone that I can laugh and have fun with....that rarely happens for us anymore. My oldest son has also put big problems in our marriage and most of the bad stuff started when I was in the hospital with my WLS. From there on out my son has been in trouble with the law 3 times. I have court today with him for stealing a book of my checks and forging my name. Over the weekend he was taken in for questioning because he and another boy which is under age had 2 girls in the car with them and the girls have said that they were raped and was forced to have oral sex!!!! DNA testing was taken and my son claims that he did not do anything with these girls. He was let loose from the investigator but the under age boy confessed and was thrown in jail...they have taken him to a detention home. They are waiting to hear back from the DNA test to see if they find anything from my son on these girls. I hope he is not lying...God, this is all I need!!! I really think that all the things going on around here is why I am not dropping the weight like I should be. I have told my husband that if he can't keep his mouth shut and treat my kids with the respect that he wants from them then I am picking up and leaving with them. Of course they are 18 and 20 so it isn't like I have small children to handle this time like I did when I left my first husband (kids dad). I have felt like running away from everyone in this house except my dog. I have looked at other places to rent and no wheres have I found any place that I can take my dog with me. I have it pretty good here financially for the first time in my life. I really hate to mess up everything and leave but I can't live like this....it isn't healthy. My husband is learning to keep his mouth shut a little better than he was but I still am not interested in sex no matter how much weight I have lost and how much bettter I am feeling about myself. We both take Lexapro for our depression and if it wasn't for the med's we probably would have already split up or killed one another. I hate living like this but am trying to make do and see how things turns out. I wish you luck and if you ever need to talk I can give you my phone number. I have unlimited long distance so I am here for you if you need me. Lots of love, Lisa S.