I Feel Victorious !!!!!
Here goes. You asked how everyones weekend was, well mine sucked. To make a long story short, my husband has mild OCD and has been on meds for a while, which generally makes him a wonderful person to be around. I love him to bits, but as of lately I think he needs his meds adjusted as he flys off the handle in fits of rage so easily. And it is the little things that set him off. Well, this weekend I was the recipient of one of these verbal outbreaks and he said things that really hurt me.( I am so envious of you Angela that you and your husband are able to talk things out.) Joe knows he is wrong and needs help but will not talk with me about it, I talk, he shuts down. But I was always an emotional eater. Happy, sad, whatever, I would find comfort in food. Well, it just dawned on me, I did not turn to food this weekend.......I found comfort in reading, exercising or other things. I no longer need food to make me feel good and that is such a wonderful feeling. I finally am in control of my food, not food in control of me. What a fantastic gift this surgery has given me....Thanks for listening to me go on....Gay
Your husband may have felt threatened by your new lifestyle. Sometimes this makes them feel out of control of the situation. You are changing before his very eyes and maybe he feels like you will no longer love him if he thinks you aren't the person he has come to know and love. Hopefully he will see that you are still the same person he married but are trying to make some life changes.
I'm so proud of you for retraining yourself to use other means of stress relief. This is a huge accomplishment! 
I am proud that you have found other things to cope with food eatings. That is always a wonderful feeling and feeling of being in control. I wished I knew what to say about your husband though...I will be thinking of you and hoping that he can get things checked out and that you will not have the brunt of his outrages anymore.
Hugs~~
Deanne
Gay,
I'm sorry you had such a terrible weekend. As lisa said, you're going through a bunch of new changes that May be scarring your husband. He May be having concerns that w/ you changing other things in his life/family will also be changing.
I'm so proud of you that you did not turn to your former comfort measures and have found new ones.
Good luck and keep up to great work.
Donna, sfy 
Thanks everyone. I know that they say how many changes we go through, but things have not changed much for me since my surgery. It is not like I have become a social butterfly, or met new friends,(other than you guys) or I haven't gone out and gotten a job yet, so I don't see him being all that threatened. He too has lost some weight and my kids make sure to make him feel good about it, as they always make me feel so good about my achievements. He gets himself feeling under pressure and the littlest thing sets him off. We have been through this before and time will clear things up. But it was just such an awakening to realize I can cope with things without relying on food to do it. Thanks again.....Gay
Gay,
*hugs* to you sweetie. I'm sorry you had such an awful weekend. Hopefully your hubby will go in and be checked to see if he needs his meds adjusted. I hope so for your sake!
But, congrats on the realization that you have found other outlets for stress/emotional eating. That's wonderful!!! Keep up the good work.
Susan 
(((((HUGS, GAY))))) I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope that your hubby gets some help and that they can readjust his meds and make things a little better for you. Hang in there.
Congrats to you for not turning to food during such an aweful time. Look how far you have come.
Hugs to you,
Tabby
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