Have any of you arrived at this place?

I'm just feeling so sorry for myself lately; did you ever get like that? I'm just feeling like I"m struggling; every day, to get my water/protein in, and if I stop thinking about it for a minute, the whole day has passed at work and I didn't get in 1/2 the fluids/protein I should have gotten in. It's like, ok, have a drink; ok, time to eat, ok, can't drink you, by the time I'm ready to drink, it's really time to eat again. I feel like I am failing at this. Although everyone says the weight loss is very apparent on me, I'm so distraught that it's mainly showing from my waist up - I feel like I'm shriveling up at top and gravity is pulling all the weight down on my bottom half and it's bringing me down. The hair loss has really thrown me into depression; I cry about it almost daily. Tomorrow I'm going to weigh myself for my 4 month anniversary and I hope it cheers me up.

*hugs* We all have up days and down days. If you continue to feel this way though you should really find someone to speak to about it. Depression is a known side effect of the surgery for a lot of people and you may just need someone to help you through it for a time. I find that if I look for a positive that it usually pulls me out of my blues. There is never a day that goes by that there isn't a positive no matter how negative the day may feel. It might just be a little thing but its still a positive. Find things that make you feel good about you!! Find other things to focus on besides weight loss and "the plan". I know that is super hard to do but it does help. Keep saying to yourself that no matter how blue I feel about this I also know that this is perfectly normal. Mourn what you are blue about but dont hang on to it. *HUGS* Hope you feel better soon!! Best of luck at your weigh in! Felicia =)

Tons of coming your way! This is normal, I believe, I think we have all been there. I have to agree with everything Felicia said, a smart one-she is. I have to do the same thing, I have to remind myself when to eat, I always keep a drink with me always. I am constantly drinking. I do think you need to talk to your PCP or Surgeon about the depression, I take Wellbutrin and thank goodness for that but anywho..we are here for you so if you need anything let us know. Hugs,

Michelle, maybe you should use a timer. i think i read it somewhere on this site. as soon as you are finished eating set the timer for 30 minutes. when the buzzer sounds, drink the liquids, and so on. yes, i also find that my top seem to be loosing faster than my bottom. i cant understand week after week i loose 2.2pounds, yet my hip measurements are staying the same. i upped the gym story and i am glad to say the hips seem to be decreasing. i am staying away from the scales. since last week i have picked up about 5 pounds even though i am still eating the same. so i think it has maybe something to do with me frequenting the gym more. i have decided to weigh myself every second week, but not during 'that time of the month.' my hair is really falling out quite a lot. i told myself to get over it. i have just adjusted my pony tails and now i have hair over the keyboard. if the hairloss in front is bother you a bit, then how about you wear a 5cm hairband? that way you cant see any potential baldspots. i take three bioton with my yoghurt in the morning. i read yesterday on the net about the vitamin DS24 which is supposed to help with hairloss. a person should be so careful though, i am tired of clearing out all the vitamins of my cupboard, and think the fortune i have wasted buying vitamins with unsubstantiated claims. anyway, have a great day

Hey Girl, Everyon the same has there ups and downs , I have the water food and med problem worse I have not lost a pound for 6 weeks , But you now thinghs down the road get bettter and better , keep you chip up very high and remember theres always a smile awaiting for you keep up all your good work lots of love Maria

Like others have said it is a lot of ups and downs on this journey. They really never said it was easy but worth all the hard work that everyone has to put into it. As I have read somewhere "you get what you put into this journey" I really did not know what they were talking about pre op but oh so know what it means now...and how true. It is a lot of work but you have come this far you will make it to the goal that you have set. Keep your spirits up and do things for yourself that make you happy. Hugs~~ Deanne

Hey Michelle, I don't think anyone could go through all the changes we have in so short a time without experiencing every emotion possible. Sometimes, it's hard to get past it, but, you are doing the right thing: pushing through, keeping up your routine, despite what you are feeling. At the worst times in my life, the best I could manage was to get up each day and do the things I really had to do...and believe, even when you don't see it, that the bad feelings are temporary. And do a reality check...you say you don't believe you are losing on your bottom half. Have you taken measurements? Do the results prove you right or wrong? Are you taking a smaller size skirt/pants? If the loss is slower on the bottom, can a trainer or instructor at your gym suggest something that targets that part of you? Hang tough, Michelle, you can do this. Lisa