Question of the day....

I had mixed reactions from the family...My DH was totally for the surgery, he went to meetings with me and was there during the hospital stay and even through the strictures. He wasn't overly excited about it he did have the worries that they all get but all in all he was happy. He told his parents and then of course his brother and sister found out. They have asked a million and one questions. My Father was not for it at first. We lost my mom in 2004 so he was worried I would have problems and never heal because my mom had so many problems with healing. I sat him and brother down and told them together and they got real upset. My DH talked to them throughly and the accepted it but was never 100% happy. Now they are totally different they are proud of me and are so happy for me. My close friends know and they were not happy...still some of them are having problems with my changes. I have a few that are looking into the surgery so I am hoping that they decide to do this for them. Other family members have found out but not by me. It doesn't matter to me who knows that I have had the surgery. I am tickled that I did it and I come across such when someone ask me about it. Great question... Hugs,

I come from a family that announces it when we have to pee or calls everyone up when we fart. I don't keep much from my family. When I first told DH, he said "NO WAY! It is too risky." I explained it was risky to keep going the way I am with heart problems in my family and diabetes. The next day I asked my PCP about it and she gave me some dr's to call. I came home and called my mom to tell her I was thinking about it and got a referral from my PCP. DH heard me talking to my mom (of course I was telling her right in front of him, intending for him to hear). When I got off the phone, he told me to look into it for both of us. So, he has definately been there for me since. He has his surgery coming up soon and then I will be supporting him, too. I told my IL's because we needed a sitter for doctor's appointments. My MIL was SOOOOO against it and wouldn't talk about it. She is a nurse, so I guess I can understand the clinical side of her being against it. I finally cornered her one afternoon and explained why I was doing it, about the surgery and advancements and about what an experienced surgeon we had been going to. My FIL never really asked about it. When I told my IL's a couple of weeks ago about DH's surgery date, his dad asked "OH, is he still going through with that?" I leave it up to him to inform his parents. Mine know everything. My oldest sister was always a size 5/6 in highschool. Since having kids and getting Rheumatoid Arthritis, she has gone up to over 200 lbs. She is kind of indifferent about it. She did, however, give away a garbage bag full of clothes (some with tags still on them, she had informed me) to a girl at her church because she doesn't have nice clothes. I was upset because I had asked her if I could "borrow" some clothes, since I wouldn't be in them long. I don't know if she did it out of jealousy or just wasn't thinking. She could have given them to the girl AFTER I had worn them for a month or two. My youngest sister was always smaller, too. Since having kids, she REALLY watches her weight. She exercises like an hour and a half a day and eats low carb/high protein. She had a tummy tuck and boob job a few years back to get rid of the baby stuff. I was afraid to tell her about it, thinking she would say "if you would just exercise and cut back on your food..." But she was very supportive and asks me how it is going each time that I talk to her. She said that she is glad that I am exercising since the surgery, that that was the only thing she was worried about, that I would have the surgery and NOT exercise. My SIL was not very supportive. He husbands step mom had it and got too thin. Couldn't stop losing. Also had problems in the beginning. She thought I should talk to her before I went through with it. I know some people have problems and some don't. I was going to let one bad experience change my mind. She made a few comments, so I quit talking to her about it. Everyone else...friends, family, coworkers, my parents friends...everyone has been very supportive. I am glad I have made this decision and can't wait for everyone to see me this summer. Good Question, Holly. Hugs, Tabby

I've told my parents only as far as family is concerned and all my close friends. My parents were concerned, naturally, but ultimately, after they did some reading up about it, they were very supportive and happy that my health has done a complete 180. Diabetes runs in my family and I had it at 26 years old. So, the fact that this was the first thing to go, just reassured them that I made the right decision and me too! My friends have always been supportive since day one, which is great. I have chosen not to tell the rest of the family (I have no brothers or sisters but a large extended family on both sides). I don't see them often but I did see some at Christmas time and just told them I was on a low carb diet lol Hey, it's true! Anyway, maybe some day I will reveal, and maybe not, it's really their business anyway in my opinion.