Question Of The Day

Mine is kind of stupid, but this is what had happened.... I was having problems with my hand and figured I had carpal tunnel syndrom. I had it with both pregnancies and after having Megan, it didn't go away. I was getting burned out at work and was talking to my coworker. There are only two of us that work together on the midnight shift, so he and I were pretty close. Both of us were overweight and were constantly dieting and failing. I could talk pretty openly with him. Well, one night we were talking and I said that I was so deperate for time off that I was considering carpal tunnel surgery or even WLS. He said would you do that? And I thought for a moment and said "Ya know what...Yeah, I would." The next day I asked my hubby and he said absolutely not, the risks are too high. The day after that I talked to my PCP and asked her and she said it was a great surgery that she had seen a lot of success with. I brought it up again to my hubby and he said to look into it for both of us. After that, I called and got an appointment for two weeks later with the surgeon and that was that. We both started the process of testing and meeting with our PCP for 6 mos of a supervised diet. I never had a point where I looked in the mirror and was horrified or was trying on clothes and got upset. I just wanted time off from work and that planted the seed. The year before an aunt of mine had had the surgery and was doing well with it. She had more health conditions than me and later I figured is she could handle it, I definately could. Then my cousin said, "So you are considering WLS?" at that point it had not seriously crossed my mind. I was kind of offended that my aunts were saying I needed the surgery and told my cousin I was having it. Well, I guess that my mom had said that she wouldn't be suprised if I had the surgery at some point and they took that as I was looking into it. That kind of put the thought in my head, too. That was it for me. Good Question!! Hugs, Tabby

I don't think any moment is "stupid" that helps you become better then you were the day before. Time off or not you did a great thing for yourself!!! *huggles* Felicia

I main thing that made me decide to have weight loss surgery was being moved to a new building that had alot of glass windows that you can see your reflection in. I was walking towards them and saw someone waddling towards them. When I got close I said Oh my God thats me.

I think the turning point for me was I was spiralling out of control in life with bad habits and surrounding myself with food, though not admitting that I had a problem with it at all. I guess when I finally opened my eyes and admitted to myself of the crazy things that I was doing (drinking, overeating, ect). I seen a close friends hubby have it done and he lost 160 lbs (1/2 his body weight in 1 year). I started thinking about it but not very hard just tried those "fad" diets out there on the market. Well I also thought that I could do this on my own and I did not "need" the help of wls. 1 year ago this month I went to my first intro to wls lecture and was pleased with the lecture but after going to visit the doctor did not feel a match, so I looked at it closer to where we live. I really doubted my choice even going to the first lecture at this point...I went to another place for yet another lecture and felt right at home with the nurse there she was so inspiring and helpful. I went home and told hubby that I was for sure having the surgery and I was filling out the paperwork and did that night and mailed it in the next day. And really the rest is history as I was already on my way with the insurance requirements as I had asked them when I went to my first lecture what they were so I had started those. Good questions. I never really knew what I was truely missing out on when I was overweight and hiding from life. Hugs~~ Deanne

Yup.. lack of admittance.. Been there done that. I always knew what I was missing out on just didn't have the emotional ability to over come my embarrassment over my size to just get over it and go live.. i don't do that anymore though lol. *huggles* Felicia

Oh my that so sounds like my mirror moment. I was just shocked it was me waddling down the hallway. It was life changing thats for sure. *huggles* Felicia

I thought about WLS about a year before I made my decision and my son, who was 17 at the time threw a major fit! He told me that he thought I was just perfect the way I was and that if God wanted me to be thin, he would have made me thin. So, I chose not to have WLS at that time. I decided instead to diet and work out and let my son watch me as I struggled! After I made my decision, he still wasn't real thrilled, but he also commented to my husband that he never realized how much I struggled until he really watched me!

I don't think I can remember anyone being against me having the surgery. Hubby was worried of course but fully supportive. My parents were supportive as they could be in comparison to their normal lack of support. Hubby and I had tried it all together. He knew that there was no way I was going to lose this weight with out some major help. Its been great for us both. He has even dropped a lot of weight. I don't think anyone really knows the struggle we go through do they *sigh*. *huggles* Felicia

No, people who are not overweight have absolutely no clue what we go through. They think we are just lazy or have no will power. I chose to only tell a few people about my surgery because I didn't think it was anyone else's business. My husband was very supportive of my decision NOT to tell his family and when they found out it was a nightmare!! My sister-in-law and mother-in-law found out about my surgery the night before (thank goodness we had already left for the hospital) and my mother in law called SCREAMING because we didn't tell her about it. My poor daughter got the brunt of it because she happened to answer the phone. My in-laws didn't speak to me or my husband for two weeks!! They just couldn't understand (and still don't) why I didn't want people to know I was having the surgery. Not sure if this makes any sense, but if you knew my in-laws and our history, then you would definitely understand!!

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh trust me I understand inlaws... I nor Joshua have not had contact with my husbands family since he was 5 months old. He is 6.5 YEARS old now. NOR do I ever plan on having any contact with them or letting them have any contact with J either. I would not have told my parents but Dale and I had to leave for 3 days (4 hours up and 4 hours back YUCK) and couldn't take J with us so I had to have someone to watch him. Other wise I would never have told them either. I rarely talk to them and have not spoken to my Mother since late October 06. She liked me better when I was voiceless, helpless and worthless... I am not embarrassed about having WLS I just didn't want to hear about it and still don't. Heck We never even told anyone we were Prego with J till he showed up 10 weeks early lolol. We are just really private. I totally understand where you are coming from. Its interesting how the people we have to call family treat us... Blood maybe thicker then water but it sure doesn't make them behave any better. Ok off on a tangent I went there lol but wanted you to know I understand. *huggles* Felicia