Do you want to hear it or not?
"OMG you have lost SO MUCH weight!"
I don't want to hear it lol. I hate the fact that it would be the center of attention when meeting up with old friends and people that "know" me but dont "know" me. BUT with that said I do have 3 people I can't wait to see their reactions.
1. Greg - I would have to say this is one of my husbands best friends for omgosh the last 100 years. No matter HOW FAT I got he NEVER EVER treated me different. He was always his super kind nice self. Always talked to me like I was normal. Looked me in the eye. You know just a "I don't care what you look like we are friends first" type guy. All summer long he comes over cuz he and his family live just down the road. But during the winter he doesn't stop by as much cuz well its cold lmao. Anyways I just cant wait to see his face next summer when I am down ( since the last time he saw me ) 100's of pounds.
2. Darrin - Ahh Darrin. Another good friend of my husband. But with a different side to him. NEVER can look me in the eye. Will NOT come over if Dale is not here because he doesn't want to have to run into me. Basically has done just about everything to say "OMG YOUR FAT STAY AWAY IT MIGHT RUB OFF". Oh did I mention he thinks he is "all that". Well Its been forever since the last time he saw me ( in my 400's ). I can NOT wait to see his face this next summer at one of the car things *grin*. Just BECAUSE not because it matters lolol.
3. My best friend from college Shawn - The last time he saw me was a couple of years ago. I was round 350 to 380 give or take. He was kind and polite and never said anything the whole time he was here visiting. But when I walked him out to his truck to say goodbye he told me he was scared for me. I cant wait to show him that he doesn't have to worry about me dying anymore. I have avoided calling him for several years since then because I was so embarrassed. I wanted the first call to be "Hey lets go to lunch next time you are in town." Instead of turning down his offers to go do something.
Other then that I don't want to hear it. I want to be the focus cuz aww look Dales wife came with them this time. Instead of OMG do you see how much weight she lost! I want to hear the "Hello great to meet yous" instead of the "OMG you have lost so much weights". Not because I am not proud of my loss. Its just I am losing all this weight to be normal. Not different again for the same reason (FAT! Or lack there of lol ). I guess its kind of silly. And I will graciously say thanks but really I hope that it doesn't happen to often.
OK more jibber jabber lol but what about you all? Do you want to hear it or not? What do you look forward about comments or what do you dread?
*huggles*
Felicia
Hi Felicia!
I dont mind hearing people say, "Wow, Heather! You are looking great!"...
What I HATE is, "Wow, Heather! You look SKINNY!" I am so far from skinny....I've lost a little more than 1/3 of my excess weight so far, but that HARDLY makes me SKINNY!
I dont know how to respond to that?? It makes me emarrassed, because I know it's not true.
But the simple compliments, where I can just say, "Thank you!"...that I'm OK with and even enjoy.
If people didn't notice, I dont think I would notice the weight loss on myself!
Heather
Heather My parents are the worst : You look like you have lost a lot or Hey Skinny. DRIVES ME NUTS! 1. I know I haven't lost a lot yet, and even if I have its not like I am a shadow of my former self yet lol. and 2. I am not skinny nor do I ever want to be skinny. Guess it just rubs me against the grain lolol.
I have a ton more things that I have done or hope to be doing that I would much rather have compliments then losing my fat. I want to hear "WOW your a great Mom" Or "Wow your husband is luck he has you". Or " MAN your house is so warm and inviting". Or even better yet "Wow your pretty" instead of "WOW you would BE so pretty if you were thinner". Or "wow your so talented" things like that... There is just something about getting praise for losing something I shouldnt' have gained in the first place that I struggle with.
LOL but thats just me.
*huggles*
Felicia =)
I have trouble with it... My mind always goes to the negative thought that it translates into "OMG, you sure were fat before." It's kinda like when someone says "You look nice today." I think "what, did I look bad yesterday." I guess I just don't respond well to complements with qualifiers.
You can always spot folks who have lost weight themselves. When I run into someone who has lost weight (whether it's 10 pounds or 110) I say things like "you look great, is that a new outfit?" or "You look so happy, you are just beaming" or "You look wonderful, what is your secret?"
My assistant at work is always saying to people who come by our offices, "Have you seen Annette? She has lost SO MUCH weight." I want to just hide under my chair when that happens.
Knock on my desk if you need me...can I get a light under here? It's awfully dark.
Annette 
See you think like me ( ok not sure thats a good thing lol ). I want the compliments but I want them to be about something not so every day? Does that make sense. I am like you if they say "You look great" are they meaning "WOW you looked like crap before" lmaoo Stupid thinking but I so agree with what you are saying.
OMG she does NOT!? Serious! I would hide under my desk to. Not that you should of course lol I just mean "I" would hide lolololol.
Passes a light to you.... Just crank it up lol no batteries required.
*huggles*
Felicia =)
I am with you..I do not want to hear it. I would love if they would focus on something else instead of what I was lossing or not loosing. I guess it still makes me feel concious about things.
I do have a few people that I can not wait to see when we move though. I am lucky and will not see very many people on the way down the scale. When we move it will be April so I am hoping to be down quite a bit by then and really suprise all those people that have NEVER known me any other way than fat!
Melissa
Most of the people I have seen, have only seen me in my thinner 200's so I am hoping they will not notice much of a change lolol. I spent pretty much the last 5 years not going anywhere so not to many people have seen me this heavy. (No I didn't leave the house because I had issues lol was taking care of my Grandmother with Alzheimer's) Anyways so it will be nice to walk around hopefully and have people say its great to see me not see the weight loss instead. lolol
*huggles*
Felicia
Hmmmm...this is an interesting question for me....and will probably turn into a novel of a reply for you to read. Sorry in advance. 
First of all, I started out life nice and thin. Then I got married at 24 and promptly had 4 kids. Since then I've been obese and then morbidly obese. Not fun. I turned into a recluse and left the house very rarely. One of the few times was to take my kids to the pediatrician....where I ended up getting a job! Talk about crazy, huh? Anyway, I worked for her for 2 years and my hard work was noticed by someone who was able to get me a job at the military hospital here...so I went to work there for the next year. Neither job had anything to do with my weight, it was all about what I knew and what I could do. That made me feel great. Then I had surgery. Everyone who knows me here has always known me as MO. Not something to make me happy. Everyone at home in TN has always known me as thin - I only weighed 135 when we moved to TX in 1995 and I have gained lots of weight every year since, so every time I went home, my family treated me more and more and more like a leper because I was so fat and getting fatter every year. Did I mention they acted like I needed WLS when I weighed in at 135? I was super duper thin up until my marriage - we are talking 105-110 thin...and I'm 5'4".
Oh, forgot to mention that when I had the surgery I quit work so I could focus on my weight loss, exercise, learning how and what to eat, etc. Plus my husband in active duty military and we will be moving next summer...assuming the house is sold by then.
Okay....so here goes. The people I see now are my friends. The real kind. They always notice my losses - and especially my beaming, happy face. And, they comment on it. I love the things they say to me. And, I love the confidence that is coming back out - the confidence that was hidden below the layers of fat.
It (my confidence) must be coming back really well. We were out a few weeks ago and my husband leaned over and whispered in my ear that he was seeing the Susan he fell in love with all those years ago again and that he was so happy to have her back. Made me feel so happy!!
As for my family...I won't be seeing them until this summer when we go home en route to our new duty station. NO ONE other than my parents know that I had the surgery and no one WILL if I have my way about it...so I can't wait to see their faces. They have treated me so badly since I gained the weight that it hurts to think about it. I don't really want to hear their so-called compliments because I know how shallow they are. And, knowing me and my mouth, I will probably say something sarcastic in reply. I am usually a nice person, but my cousins can bring out the worst in me sometimes. LOL
And, I'm so happy to be moving to somewhere that people will only know me as being "normal". It will be so nice to be evaluated on ME and not my weight. I know I had that in my job performance reviews...but it was in a military environment where most people are of a normal weight and when it came to things beyond work, yes, I was treated as second class....so.....it will be really great to have that stigma gone.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
Susan 
First of all, I started out life nice and thin. Then I got married at 24 and promptly had 4 kids. Since then I've been obese and then morbidly obese. Not fun. I turned into a recluse and left the house very rarely. One of the few times was to take my kids to the pediatrician....where I ended up getting a job! Talk about crazy, huh? Anyway, I worked for her for 2 years and my hard work was noticed by someone who was able to get me a job at the military hospital here...so I went to work there for the next year. Neither job had anything to do with my weight, it was all about what I knew and what I could do. That made me feel great. Then I had surgery. Everyone who knows me here has always known me as MO. Not something to make me happy. Everyone at home in TN has always known me as thin - I only weighed 135 when we moved to TX in 1995 and I have gained lots of weight every year since, so every time I went home, my family treated me more and more and more like a leper because I was so fat and getting fatter every year. Did I mention they acted like I needed WLS when I weighed in at 135? I was super duper thin up until my marriage - we are talking 105-110 thin...and I'm 5'4".
Oh, forgot to mention that when I had the surgery I quit work so I could focus on my weight loss, exercise, learning how and what to eat, etc. Plus my husband in active duty military and we will be moving next summer...assuming the house is sold by then.
Okay....so here goes. The people I see now are my friends. The real kind. They always notice my losses - and especially my beaming, happy face. And, they comment on it. I love the things they say to me. And, I love the confidence that is coming back out - the confidence that was hidden below the layers of fat.
It (my confidence) must be coming back really well. We were out a few weeks ago and my husband leaned over and whispered in my ear that he was seeing the Susan he fell in love with all those years ago again and that he was so happy to have her back. Made me feel so happy!!
As for my family...I won't be seeing them until this summer when we go home en route to our new duty station. NO ONE other than my parents know that I had the surgery and no one WILL if I have my way about it...so I can't wait to see their faces. They have treated me so badly since I gained the weight that it hurts to think about it. I don't really want to hear their so-called compliments because I know how shallow they are. And, knowing me and my mouth, I will probably say something sarcastic in reply. I am usually a nice person, but my cousins can bring out the worst in me sometimes. LOL
And, I'm so happy to be moving to somewhere that people will only know me as being "normal". It will be so nice to be evaluated on ME and not my weight. I know I had that in my job performance reviews...but it was in a military environment where most people are of a normal weight and when it came to things beyond work, yes, I was treated as second class....so.....it will be really great to have that stigma gone.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
Susan OMG is your husband not just the sweetest person every!!!
See I don't want anyone to know either. Its not because I am embarrassed about having WLS and if I am asked directly I will tell but its just my business. WLS is the "diet" I choose to work for me. But you never hear the crap about doing Atkins or South Beach or what ever fad is out there at the time but if you say you had WLS omg step back with the "oooooooo easy way" "oh you did THAT to lose weight" or what ever. But then this is just how I like things. When I found out I was pregnant we never told a soul. Not because we weren't happy but because we didn't want to hear about it every time someone saw us. Dales job found out when I had to go in for delivery 10 weeks early lol. My parents and his parents found out less then a month before we delivered. It was just nice to have people focus on US and not the over and over pregnancy remarks. Not to mention I was heavy heavy when I got pregnant so its not like someone could honestly look me in the face and say awwwwwww your pregnant with out worrying that I wasn't and just fat roflmaooo
Ok off track there but I so know how you feel.
*huggles*
Felicia
Yes, I agree, my hubby IS the sweetest thing ever. I got a good one and I'm not letting him go either....as I remind him of frequently.
And, don't you HATE hearing that we chose "the easy way" out? HELLO?? Obviously, the people who make that particular comment have #1 never had problems losing weight and #2 have NEVER had major abdominal surgery and #3 have NO CLUE how difficult life really can be trying to eat ENOUGH food, get ENOUGH water in our bodies and make sure we have ENOUGH protein and make sure we take our vitamins every single day for the rest of our lives no matter what! 
Those people make me fume!!! Can you tell??? 
Okay...time to bring the BP back into the normal ranges....
Have a good evening. I'm off to read the rest of the posts for today. I've been away from home most of today so I'm just now getting online to do more than post my food into Fitday.
Susan
And, don't you HATE hearing that we chose "the easy way" out? HELLO?? Obviously, the people who make that particular comment have #1 never had problems losing weight and #2 have NEVER had major abdominal surgery and #3 have NO CLUE how difficult life really can be trying to eat ENOUGH food, get ENOUGH water in our bodies and make sure we have ENOUGH protein and make sure we take our vitamins every single day for the rest of our lives no matter what! Those people make me fume!!! Can you tell???
Okay...time to bring the BP back into the normal ranges....
Have a good evening. I'm off to read the rest of the posts for today. I've been away from home most of today so I'm just now getting online to do more than post my food into Fitday.
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