Really having doubts about what I have done.

I am 13 days out and I still hurt so bad, the dr wants me to get off the pain pills, but I don't think I could make it through a day without them. All I do is cry because I feel so overwhelmed. I am not tolerating stage 2 of the diet it hurts to eat real food or anything like real food. My husband is trying to be so supportive but has no idea what I am going through. My surgery went off without a hitch, but I spent 8 days in because of pain and bow problems. My wound that has to be packed twice a day just throbs all the time if I don't take my pain pills faithfully. I am seriously having doubts about wht I have done. Gwen

Hang in there. My lap rny was on 10/17 and I am still having doubts. I understand from so many people that this is part of the process. Just take it one day at a time, a minute at a time if you have to. Don't let your mind get weighed down by the doubts, there is no going back. Just keep looking straight ahead and pushing on for the prize knowing that it will just get better from here. I will be praying for you!

Hang in there Gwen, You must have had an open RNY instead of lap. I am assuming that is why you have wounds that are having to be packed. The feelings that youa re going through are very normal. That is why most surgeons want us to go through a psych eval prior to surgery. I had that feeling of what have I done the first few days but it is getting better. You are a little further our than me but sounds like you had some set backs. Just try to stay calm. Enjoy the smiles of your children and try to look for the positive things. Think of the pain as something that will definetely pass. I know it is hard to believe now but it will. I have taken myself off pain meds except at night and maybe twards the end of the day but only rarely. I try not to take that many becuase I do not want to become addicted to them. I would talk to your doc about an alternative pain med that is maybe not a narcotic. That way you do not run the risk of being dependant. Try not to feel overwhelmed. You are not alone in these feelings. No one said you had to move to stage two until you were ready. I am not sure what your stage two is but mine that I am one now is still full liquids like cream soups (I can only get down about 1/4 cup) and I eat it over about 30 min,. Makeing sure to go very slow. Then I will try some yogurt maybe. I get about 2-3 oz down and again it takes 20-30 min. Try going back to that if that is what you are comfotable with. My hubby who had surgery in June moved more slowely than others to each stage and I am happy to report that of this morning he is down 82lbs!!! So take is as your body tells you to go. It is truly different for everyone. Listen to your body and you will know what to progress to and what to hold off from. Maybe becuase you are in such pain as well and struggleing so much you could have a tightened muscle system and that makes things tough in anyone. If you are gassy at all try the gas-x thin strips. They work wonders. I hope maybe I have helped a little. If you need someone to listen I am here but please know that you are not alone. best of luck to you. By the way have you gone to the doc and did they weigh you. Concentrate on any # of lbs lost too. Even 1 or 2 is worth it. It is that much closer to your goal. Keep your chin up and God Bless, Melissa

Thanks for your words they helped alot, it is now day 15 and I am feeling better. I just seemed to be so overwhelmed. I did not have an open bypass I had it lap. I just seem to be healing very slowly, and yes I went to the drs. and weighed myself last night and so far I have lost around 16 ponds. Again thank you so much for your kind words, and I hope we can chat again. Gwen

Again I am so glad someone else is going through what I am I had lap RNY and my incisions and drain site is not healing without twice a day drg changes and still healing slowly I'm 21days post op and feel like I May have made the worst mistake of my life I'm a nurse and lead a busy life I am now stuck in the house can't go back to work due to wounds and feeling like I have no energy to eat or drink much less do what mommy and wife duties are calling feel free to write at any time two days ago I had the worst day but I felt stupid writing about it because I felt sure I was the only one feeling this doubtful it feels great to know I'm not alone

Sorry it took so long getting back, I don't get on the computer on a daily basis, it hurts to sit straight. No you are not alone, and I am now 22 days out, and still having pain. I am however tolerating some more food, but I get scared trying anything cause I never know how it is going to make me feel. I have lost about 30 pounds, but they feel like empty pounds, because my muscles are so week from being laid up for so long. I do walk around the house all day and I do walk around the block when the weather permits me to but by the time I get home my legs hurt so bad I feel like screeming. I was originally suppose to go back to work on the 30th but I don't see that happening. My drain site is healing slowly but it still hurts like hell. My newest complication is constipation. I haven't been constipated in 25 years. So now I have to drink diluted prune juice and take colace everyday. It is nice to know that I am not the only person in the world who isn't were they're suppose to be. Thanks for your words. Gwen