4 days till surgery...stressed

Surgery is not what is stressing me..its my family. I have to be up in Cleveland for pre-op testsing tomorrow at 7:30am...and actually have no way. My mother who had this surgery 5 years ago..and who has supported me, is making excuses to help me at the last minute. On top of it all, my fiance is being a jerk and stressing me out..knowing I have surgery on Monday and don't need the extra stress. Everyone said they'd be there for me, and now no one seems like they want to be there for me. So now I feel like Im going to be alone in the hospital and no ones gonna care about me. I hate feeling like a burden anyways. Plus I have 3 sons 11, 7 and 16 months...and I feel like no one is doing anything to help me make sure they are taken care of. I dont know why everyone is acting like this at the last minute. I have been on depression meds forever..and now I feel more depressed than ever because how everyone is acting. Im always there for everyone when they need someone...and here I am feeling like I have no one. Sorry to vent..but there is no one else for me to vent to. Shannon

Shannon, I, too, have surgery coming up on Monday,Oct. 30th. I understand the stress you are going through. While I don't have any children currently life seems to keep on going whether we are ready or not. When things get crazy I always tell my wife, "Stop the world, I want to get off!!" Keep your head about you. It is possible that your fiancee and your mom are also nervous and stressed for you and therefore are coping and lashing out in the only way they know. Doesn't help you at all but at least you know what might be causing the problem. Best Wishes for a an "uneventful" surgery on Monday. This is the best place to vent or ask questions so keep it coming! Mike

Hi Shannon, My surgery was the 16th, I understand the stress all too well...I was fortunate in that I had my sister and daughter who had recently had WLS so they were a big support for me...My children are all grown and have families of their own, and my Dear Husband passed away from complications from diabetes in Jan...So even though I have a wonderful family...I still felt very alone. I worried about when I came home, and being alone...I worried about if I could do this..I worried about everything... Just remember the reasons you are doing this...and Know that when it is all over you will be a healthier mom, daughter, woman etc... you will get through this and your family and friends I am quite sure will be there for you...They are nervous too. If you ever need to talk...e-mail me [email protected] somehow feel connected to you, and hope that maybe I can help... You are in my thoughts and prayers... Amy

I am so sorry you have gone through all the stress. I too have surgery tomorrow and we had a very large reception yesterday and while my family said their well wishes they did not exactly extend their support. To top it all off my dear mother in law was so kind as to call and invite my husband out to eat today. She knows that I can not eat anything and it is misserable. It was just so inconsiderate and it titally rubbed me the wrong way. My husband went through it in June so he knows what it is like and told her no but I almost wish he would have told her how rude it was. Just remember that tomorrow is an awesome day and the start of the rest of our lives. I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers. Best of luck and let them eat their hearts out when we look great!!!!!