My emotional weekend...

I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one playing with the same few pounds this month! I was so excited last month after losing 20 lbs but this month I played with the same 4 lbs all month long! I keep trying to ignore it and tell myself that it will pass (I know it will!) but you all know how hard it is to ignore that little nagging voice in your head sometimes! On top of that Friday was such an emotional night for me, the hubby (soon to be ex) and I took the kids to our family therapist to let them know exactly what our time frame is for the divorce and the move (we're selling the house and I'm moving with the boys over the summer when school is out). I'm ok about the divorce, even though no one wants to feel like a "failure", it's something that I have wanted for about 2 years now and with the help of this wonderful family therapist, the hubby and I have been able to find our friendship again and I know we will be better friends living seperately, we've made peace with that. The hard part was watching my boys cry when we told them when we'd be finalizing the divorce and moving, etc. They've known it was coming, but I guess this was reality sinking in. It tore my heart out to watch them cry and it took everything I had in me not to cry with them or to blame myself for all this. To add insult to injury, I sent a couple of new pictures to my sister who's never been supportive. The last picture she saw, she told me I looked "pale and drawn" and that I probably needed vitamins. I was so insulted and I told her as nicely as I could that I DO take vitamins and that I've been doing well. I know she just can't be happy for anyone, so why do I bother? This time she told me that "the rosey cheeks" that they remember are gone. In other words, she still thinks I look sick. That was her first email. In her second email she told me I was "vain". (Mind you she still takes pictures of herself and frames them and hangs them on her walls, but I'm vain for taking pictures of myself as I lose weight??) Long story short, I've had just about enough of her for the past 40 years and I finally let loose and told her what I really think of her controlling selfish personality!! I got ugly which isn't like me, but I'm just so damn tired of the abuse I put up with from her for so many years! If you want to read the rest of it, I put it here in my blog: http://shrinkingvi.blogspot.com/ I should warn you, I wasn't nice though. I guess once in a while we need to step out of character and stop letting people abuse us... Thanks for letting me vent! I know things will be better, they always are! And Thursday I had the most wonderful day, so with sunshine a little rain must fall! Everyone who is struggling this month, hang in there, it will get easier my friends! It always does! Hugs, Vi

Good for you for sticking up for yourself. Family can be so tough sometimes. Marcia

They sure can, but sometimes we just have to breakaway from all those negative influences. Hugs, Vi

I agree, good for you! I know it was heartbreaking, I've had issues similar with my own sisters, but be proud of yourself! You are doing amazing things with your life, and you need to surround yourself with people that recognize that and support you. I hope everything gets a little easier for you soon! Rebecca

Thanks Rebecca, I know it will get better and I've pretty much accepted that my dysfunctional family will never change, so I just need to keep moving forward with the good things in my life. Hugs, Vi

Vi I have simular problems with my sister and mother they can never be happy with someone or allow someone to be happy with themselves. My own mother tells me that I will fail in this and never be able to accomplish being thin again, My sister tells me I still look fat I have gotten to the point where I have distanced myself from them both which has in some areas been hard because she has always baught my daughter all her clothing because she loves to shop but life has gone on and I am slowly learning to not be so hard on myself and that I to can be happy Kim 276/204.5/111 ps my month long stall has broke YAYYYYYYYYYYYYY

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay for you on breaking that stall! I'm hoping mine will break soon too! I'm going to concentrate as much on my water as I can today. Sorry to hear your family makes such negative comments. That's awful! It's sad when the people who are supposed to love us the most are the worst at helping our self esteem! HUGS, Vi

Vi, I was raised in a very negetive household my mother was both physically and emotionally abusive to my father was always out of town working. Si at an early age I knew I wanted better for my life and that I was better than what my mom told me I was but became anorexic,teen parent who married an abusive alcoholic at age 19. but thats my past and with out it I dont think I could have raised my daughter to as strong of a young woman as she is. So I am glad for my past it makes my present and future even more special to me and I appreciate each and every day I dont have to deal with my mother... my sister.... or ay negetivity. Kim fyi I still have to take loazapam to deal with my mom when she comes for an hour long visit with my daughter lol

Good morning miss Violet, It sure has been a long time since I talked to you. You look amazing!!! Way to go. It's such a great feeling to shed not only the weight through this surgery, but I have found I have also shed a lot of the negativity that was surrounding me before. I am just so appreciative for having the opportunity for the surgery and the great things are ahead. Keep your chin up and I know you too will be enjoying life like you haven't for awhile! Neici

OMG, Neici!! It's been too long! So great to hear from you. You look wonderful! Thank you for the support and you are 100% correct, it's wonderful to shed the negativity with the weight! HUGS, Vi