Help

Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while... mostly due to frustration and embarassment but tonight I have to reach out. I am bawling as I type this and I am NOT a crier usually. I am usually totally "together", everyone elses "rock". SO, you KNOW that I am desparate if I am reaching out. I have not lost a pound in almost 3 months. Wait... let me reword that... I have lost the same 5 or 6 pounds for 3 months. I am up down up down up down ..... I cannot hold it in anymore. I am so disappointed and terrified that this is "it" for me. No more loss. I cannot even stand to read profiles or posts anymore because it stabs me in the heart to think I am one of the failures and will never have the success story like you all. I fought for 3 years for this surgery and have busted my hiney to " do it right". I was my surgeons star patient he said because at 10 days out I was walking a mile a day and was in a wheel chair pre-op. I do confess that I have gotten so down that I have not been exercising. It just feels pointless. I am still eating healthy. I won't ever go back to the junk. I like eating good for my body. Please somebody tell me it isn't over. I kept being optimistic and pep talking myself and those around me who kept asking me "are you still losing? how much more have you lost? I am crashing and the depression is setting in. I am fighting tooth and nail but tonight I crashed when I logged onto OH. I can't stop crying. Everyone in the house is asleep and I am finally letting out my hurt. I am so scared to have to admit to my family and friends that I failed. people will say that a 65lb loss is great.... blah blah blah... i lost that 3 months ago! it is time to move on. Oh dear I am so sorry for whining and rambling like this. I did speak to a nurse at my surgeon's office who basically turned it around on me and said I MUST be doing something wrong or I would be losing. Just the pick me up I needed! ugh. I am teachable and if I am blowing it I am VERY open to learn what to do differently but I have done what I was told and still I sit here not budging the scale! Thanx for listening. You guys are great and truly I am happy for all of you who have been successful on your journey! God bless, Sallykate

We're here to listen and it's not over. I've only lost five in about a month so I kinda know what you're going through. Keep your chin up and keep doing what you're suppose to and it will start again! Protein, protein, protein................fluids, fluids, fluids...............vitamins, vitamins, vitamins! Keke

Thanx Miss KeKe! I am climbing back on the ole horse again with a new and refreshed outlook thanx to God and my october ANGELS! Sally

Hi Rachel! Thanx so much for taking the time to try and help me sort this out. I used to log all my food... back when I was doing good but stopped. Your reminder inspired me to dust off the ole food journal and start plugging in my intake to Fitday. EYE opener!! Yesterday was an unusually low intake day for me but ( i mean lower than usual ie. not my everyday sort of intake) I only took in 488 calories!!! and 35 grams PROTEIN!!! That is awful! This opened my eyes even more. I will try and be more dilligent with my protein intake for sure! cuz even double that is not really "enough". Again thank-you!! Sallykate up on her horse and riding again.....

Sallykate...I agree with Rachel...I have not lost anything for the last 3 weeks except the same dam pound...I went to a support meeting yesterday and we talked about Plateau's..if you are doing everything right , and you know if you are or not ...are you taking your measurements? sometimes it is your body playing catch up...did you lose a lot of weight the first few months...and now you have to play catch up? if not yes call your DOCTOR and say what is going on? everyone has there own thing to say about this...but it should be easy..what is going in...what is your excercise program...I know how you must feel...I would be so upset...as I am with the 3 week plateau...keep your chin up...and please post...we are here for you....I lost 58 pounds in four months, and have about 40 to go...so it will be much slower....so far this month...2 pounds...ba humbug...but over 50% of my weight is gone...so they look at how much you have lost vs. how much you still need to lose...and the poor body is saying what the friggin is going on...so do it right...and you will be great.... Dennis

Also, do you keep track of what you weigh each week. Sometimes, I feel like I haven't lost in a while and then I go back to what I weighed a few weeks ago and am amazed that I actually have been losing. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Three months of it would have me very down, also. The only thing I can say is keep on keeping on. Don't let it get you. You did say you have quit exercising, so start that back up. You need it. Set a goal for yourself. Not a weight goal, but an exercise goal. Say, "I am going to exercise 6 days this week and will not eat anything I shouldn't. I will make sure I get all my water and protein and won't step on the scale until the 7th day." Hopefully, it will have moved by then. Good luck! I wish I could be of more help. Marcia

Great point about the exercise Marcia. Monday is a new week and I have goals.... Sallykate

I have a friend that went over 2 months. The nut had her go back to liquids mostly protien shakes for a week. Just to give the body another jump start. And if you are not already do keep a journal or as was suggested eirlier join fitday.com. it is amaizing how differant you eat when you are accountable. And try to get in some exercise, it is amaizing how much better you feel when you exercise. Good luck and god bless you, I will keep you in my prayers. Deb

Deb Thank-you for the prayers! I covet them. Sally

I''m so sorry to hear about how hard this is for you. I would bet that it isn't over for you. I know how discouraged you feel, but keep doing what you're doing. Maybe increase your water and protein. It's so good to hear you say that you won't go back to eating junk. I also like eating healthy. Please feel free to vent, it's not whining. Maybe it will help to get it out and where better to do that? We totally understand what you're going through. What does your surgeon say? Maybe he/she will have an answer for you. Hang in there and pamper yourself and keep at it. Maybe you have reached a long plateau. Take good care. Fran