No Cali Trip for Me.

Well, California friends, I'm sorry to say I won't be going to California in May after all. My Cali friend had a major falling out with me and I was "un-invited" to stay there. (Long story, but basically this friend of mine had WLS 2 years ago, never came close to goal, never researched, never followed the rules of the pouch and hence I think was feeling threatened by my progess.) But have no fear, I will get out to Cali some day to meet you all! It just won't be this May! I'm really saddened by the loss of this friendship, and have been so blue the past week because of it, but maybe it's for the best. Life goes on... And anyway, I refuse to let anyone drag me down! Today is my 4 month WLS anniversary, I had an amazing month weight-wise, and I'm down 78 lbs and feeling fantastic so I couldn't be happier about my progress! Food is no longer an issue for me (unfortunately or fortunately I still have ZERO interest in food, except for chocolate, that always looks appealing ) and I have started to really deal with my raw emotions and the issues that I had surpressed for so many years. In more ways than one, I'm much healthier than ever, and if all these other changes are the result, I'll take it! HUGS, Vi

Vi, As I am starting to see, people I thought would be supportive are not and the ones I didnt think would be...are very! All things happen for a reason and maybe you didnt need this non supportive person in your life right now. Stay positive girlie..you are doing great..and their aint no stoppin you now

Thanks hon, you are right about the people who we expected the best from being the ones who let us down sometimes. And everything does happen for a reason, so I'll accept this and I'll move forward! HUGS, Vi

Vi~ So sorry to hear about your friend I know that's got to be a major let down! I've had the same friends since junior high school and now that I'm not the "fat girl", nobody seems to want to come around anymore (which is a bummer.. I'm still the same person on the inside but look different on the outside) I notice that people who have been there for me through hard times aren't the ones who are here for me now. It's sad. I would be bummed out about California too...I love it there. However, maybe you can make it for a different time and really enjoy yourself ....You're down 78 lbs ..that is so awesome!! I think it's great that food is no longer an issue for you! I'm still working on that one and trying to find the answer why it still is an issue for me.

Thanks hon! I almost wish I had some kind of desire for food though. This is so extreme! LOL! But it has given me a chance to deal with those emotions and I guess that's why it's not an issue anymore. Keep digging, I really believe we all have the answer buried inside us and maybe this surgery is just the tool we needed to uncover it!

Been going through a best friend breakup for months now, know it's for the best but still hard, harder to realize that their not there for you when you needed it the most, do what you know is right, even though its hard..On another note, i'm curious about your friends lack of progress, can you really fail at this and how? I need to know so I dont! Louise 215/165/125

I guess some people take it for granted that the surgery is going to do all the work for them so they don't exercise and they don't do their best to cut the carbs during the early months when it's so much easier. Later on we'll all struggle just like everyone else so we have to take advantage of this first year!

Vi, It's unfortunate that your trip has been cancelled. I hope that you can resolve the issues with your friend. Sometimes people just can't take someone else changing and being successful. Everyone around me is very supportive to my face but who knows what they say or think behind my back. One woman that I share my office with isn't as supportive as I thought she would be. She never asks me about my progress or seems happy for me when I tell her my progress, even tho she doesn't ask. I'm happy about it and I'm going to let people know. I truely don't care what people say about it, it's working for me and I'm accomplishing something that I thought I'd never be able to do again. I'm down 70lbs. as of Sunday. I weigh every Sunday. Like you, I'm not going to let anyone get me down...there are so many reasons to celebrate. Fortunately, there is one lady at work who also had WLS two years ago and she has lost about 350lbs. She is doing great and we have developed a friendship because we have this in common. Let's not waste all this wonderful stuff and let others get us down. Let's celebrate and be happy that for once things are going in our favor and we can succeed at this for the first time in our life. Hang in there and take care. Maybe she'll realize what a terrific friend you are and do something to initiate a resolution. Fran Fran

Thanks Fran, I know the friendship is salvageable, so we'll see what happens. Hugs, Vi

Thanks Jill. I was really looking forward to meeting you too, but all is not lost! I'll get there eventually! Hugs, Vi