Envy??? Rude Comments?

I think we are coming to a point were our weight loss is starting to be very visible and people are starting with their comments. I think that people who are heavier than us, start getting envious, and people who are thinner might just be jealous something good is going on in our lives. I've had so many "interesting" comments. A friend told me to make sure I didn't lose too much weight because I would look sick. My boyfriend's mom said I've lost enough weight and shouldn't lose anymore, cause I might not look good. My mom said my face is starting too droop. I have also gotten really nice comments specially from guys, but as always, the bad comments are the ones that stick in our mind. So I say we will NOT listen to any bad comments, and will only take the good ones. BEWARE of envy!!!!! don't let their comments get to you!!!!! Celia

I agree! My sister told me I looked "drawn" and should make sure that I took vitamins so I don't get "sick". And one of my friends keeps telling me to make sure I don't get "too thin" because my face was always thin and it won't look good. I just laugh!!

here I have the bf who is envious I think. It seems like the more energy I have the crabbier he gets . I just remind him that I had the surgery for health reasons and he was ok with it when I had it so he better just accept it now Kim

Celia, I know what you mean, there is one woman I work with who likes to say rude things, than says it's just because she is concerned. Wrong, it is just her excuse to be rude. I am luck my husband has also had the surgery, he was in December. So, he supports me and I support him. My family has not seen me yet, they all live in other states, Virginia and Texas, so I am not sure what they will say. But I am sure they will be suprised . I have told my family what weight I am down too, and now my sisiter and niece both say they have to diet because I am within a few pounds of them. I hope this encourages them :cheer: . It might be that people are so use to seeing chubby round faces for us that thin ones just look so strange to them. Thanks for the encouragement. Will try not to let the bad comments bother me either! Mary L

Mary, I understand what you're going thru a bit. It is strange how some people are like "Good for you!" and "You look great!" and others are like, don't you think you're going to look unhealthy when you're done losing teh weight? I was chatting online to my BIL a few weeks ago and he says even though my sister (his wife) says she's happy and that I look great, she and our oldest friend are pissed off that I am losing abunch of weight. He actually sai dthey have started dieting and exercising becaus ethey don't want me to come back ot teh USA looking better than they do. I thought that was funny. I was like, good, maybe they'll get healthier too. They are real big, but they cold stand to lose some weight, not being rude, just honest. I know part of my weight gain was because everyone kept telling me I looked fine, and I just felt that I was okay. But it was unhealthy and I'm so glad that I did teh WLS, because it has helped my asthma immensely. Some of my friends find out that I had teh WLS and said "Why don't you just go on a diet?" I'm like "Wow! I never thought of that before." DUH!! Like I haven't tried to diet. What idiots. I just smaile back and say, I am on a diet. which isn't exactly a lie. Most of my friends say I look great and sexy though. I gues syou take teh good with teh bad. Just don't let it bring you down. People say hurtful things because they are jealous usually.

Everyone in my famliy says i look sick..........but i still weigh 190lbs what will they think when i lose 40 more..........i agree no one can stop me now!!!!!! you are 100% right.....................vickie r.

YOU ARE SO RIGHT, MS CELIA. THOSE WHO MAKE CRUEL STATEMENTS SAY MORE ABOUT THEIR LACK OF CHARACTER THAN YOUR WEIGHT LOSS ISSUES. I'M NOT SURE WHY THE BAD REMARKS STAY WITH US MORE THAN THE GOOD ONES ... MAYBE BECAUSE AS OBESE PEOPLE, WE'RE USED TO THE BAD REMARKS & HAVE BEEN "CONDITIONED" TO LISTEN TO THEM. IT'S TIME TO RETRAIN OURSELVES. I'VE BEGUN MAKING DECISIONS AS TO WHO SHARES IN MY LIFE BASED ON WHETHER THEY ARE SUPPORTIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE TOWARDS ME. A GOOD FRIEND WILL FIND A KIND WAY TO TELL US A NEGATIVE SITUATION IN OUR LIVES ... A DESTRUCTIVE PERSON WILL SAY SOMETHING NEGATIVE JUST TO HURT US. SO, IN WITH GOOD, SUPPORTIVE FRIENDS ... & OUT WITH MEAN-SPIRITED, DESTRUCTIVE PEOPLE! THE OLD ADAGE, "IF YOU CAN'T SAY SOMETHING NICE, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL" FITS HERE!!!! GOD BLESS DAWN & NICK

Everyone but my sis has been great. No rude comments except my MIL wanting to know when and if my boobs will shrink. Not so much rude as ridiculous. My sister telling me all the size 18's and 20's i bought are brands that "run big". I've scared her into WW. I'm now at the lowest she got after WLS because she started much higher and didn't follow Drs rules. When I get back into my pre-baby 12 and 14's I'm going over to her house with a big sh*t eating grin on my face and telling her that it pays to follow the rules and exercise. She deserves it after making me strip down in a public bathroom just so she could show me that she could wear the same size as me. She's just crazy sometimes. Sheryl

Twinnie how true...don't worry...I am hearing the same thing...someone said you will look old if you lose any more weight...you know what I said...would you like my good 46 slacks, they should fit you....Just pop it back to them...yes we are looking good and it only gets better... Dennis/Toni