WELL MEANING FRIENDS ???? help

Yeah, you know, I think it's hard for people to know what to say. They want to be supportive, but don't know how. I think the best thing to do is accept the support in the way it was intended - people really do mean well. There are so many cir****tances where it's hard to know how to offer support to people - when they can't concieve a baby, or when they lose a family member, or when they undergo plastic surgery - these are inherently awkward situations, and almost anything you say doesn't come out right, you know? I'll be you do look skinny, compared to your former self! And I'll bet you feel skinny too. I hope you feel slimmer, and healther, and stronger every day. best wishes to you, Mary! Sheryl

Sheryl, You are probably right, I am being too self critical. It is nice to receive the compliments, but there is that little naggin though in the back of my head that is self critical. I do feel much better and lighter, but when I look in the mirror I still see the fat me. I think I need to compare some pictures to see what I look like now, compare to the pictures of me that I hate. Thanks for your insight and support. You are an Mary L

I think you are being too sensitive. Try to just accept the compliments and enjoy them. People are just trying to be nice and acknowledge all the work you've done. Wouldn't it be worse if no one said anything at all? I'm enjoying every aspect of my new life and although I still have 98 pounds to reach my goal, I don't think about when I was heavier and try to focus on where I'm at right now. The only time I think about my starting weight is when I need to remember how I felt and how unhappy I was. Just enoy! Fran

Fran, You are probably right. I will try and tell those little demons in my head to stop being so critical, I do feel better and still have a good 80 plus lbs to go, and I am determined to do it right this time, and get all the way down to my goal. Thanks for your input. Mary L