Please NO Flames!!

AWWWW Dennis, Thank you for the support. WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!! (cant we?) take care willby

No flames and no yelling!!! Many of us have struggled with the same thing - being able to eat almost anything post-surgery is a blessing and a curse. Now that you've allowed yourself to feel guilty about eating things that are not so good for you, allow yourself to refocus on your weight loss journey. You're still drinking your water and exercising - good for you! Now refocus on getting enough protein and eating healthy. You've spent a lot of time and energy to get to this point; think of this as one small step backward on a long journey forward. And know that we're all on the journey with you . . . . Kellie RNY 10/25/05 396 (10/10/05) 386 (10/25/05) down 10 336 (12/15/05) down 60

Kellie, Thanks for the encouragement! I appreciate it! willby

Kellie, Thank you so much for the encouraging words! I will try to look at my cheating as a small setback. take care willby

Me too, nothing bothered me. I ate some things I should not have but I agree with the others who said...nothing like this time last year! Now just have to get back to protein and water

I wondered where you have been. No flames from me. I have been bad too. I think it is this time of the year. I have been drinking REGULAR coke when we go out to dinner and drinking WITH my meal. I do not buy it for home, just when we go out. I have also had some of the wonderful chocolate bar that my Dh put in my stocking. Yup, I am not a dumper either. We nondumpers are really going to have to watch so we don't let this get out of hand. I found out today and yesterday that I cannot have cashews anywhere near me. I must have ate 1/2 a cup both days. That is around 300 calories and lots of fat for about 8 grams of protein. Hang in there. Jenn

Jenn, Thank you for the support! It truly means a lot to me. I really didnt know there were so many of us non-dumpers. take care willby

Sounds like a lot of us are non-dumpers and know exactly what you are going through. To tell you the truth, the past few days I've also eaten things I shouldn't. But as I tell myself, it's nowhere near the quantity that I would have eaten before the surgery. I don't get upset at myself. I try to eat healthy, but occasionally I like something that's "forbidden" like the chicken fajitas from McDonald's. We went through a very major thing that lots of people don't have the courage to ever do. Give yourself credit that you did have the courage. People tell me all the time that they couldn't have done it. If you berate yourself for eating a small quantity (compared to previous quantities) of something you enjoy then you're going to drive yourself crazy and become depressed. I don't want to get back into that cycle that I was in continously before WLS that caused numerous diets to fail. I take comfort in knowing that even if I wanted to cheat by eating more than I should, I physically cannot do it. This tool has given me the chance to be sensible and eat a small amount when I have a strong craving, and for me that satisfies me. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong in thinking this way, but it seems to help me. I'm a slow loser anyway, but I'm thankful it's coming off and staying off forever! Angela 350/329/290/170

Angela, I feel exactly the same way!!! Thank you so much for your support! willby

Dear Willby: No scolding from me. My heart goes out to you. I know how you feel, because twice in my life I have lost 120# and 130# only to regain that and more. In 2001, I was scheduled for this surgery, and backed out. I am convinced now, God had more to do to get me prepared. I joined Overeaters Anonymous and through the 12 Steps and Tools received much healing emotionally and spiritually, but not permanent physical recovery. That was what led me to WLS. But all the while, I have been reminding myself---THIS IS JUST A TOOL! It does not cure the obsession with food. Only by working my OA program and turning it over to God will I receive a reprive from overeating ONE DAY AT A TIME. I belong to an online WLS OA group as well as a face to face group. This is helping me, and I would be happy to share any of the information with you if you are interested. There is a Power Greater Than Myself who is willing and able to help me recover and live the life I was meant to. He is no respector of persons---what He's done for others, He will do for you. In Loving Recovery, Santina