HELP!! I'm bummed

Ok Guys, I'm having one of those rough days. This is what my brain sounds like-" Why did I put myself through surgery when this is still such a struggle. I' ve only lost [i know , i know, it's still a loss] 31lbs in 2 and a half months, and for the second time I'm stalled. How oh how can I not be losing with the so little that I eat. I upped my protein, I exercise but my weight loss is so slow or non-existent. I feel everyone's watching me, expecting me to fail- again. And now I feel like a failure too, I'm told I'm a lightweight, my starting weight was 215 but I'm only 5 foot and have co-morbidities, so I qualified. Why can't I lose???????? My biggest fear, and I told my doc this, is that I would be the only person that this didn't work for, and now I'm scared to death it might be true." Not having a pity party-I swear- I really could use some advice. PS tried calling and e-mailing my doctors nutritionist and she dosen't respond so I'm reaching out to you guys, I really value all your opinions, Thanks! :-{

Hi Hon, I feel for you because I'm usually the most optimistic person out there, but I was starting to feel a little down about my stalls and my small loses too. All I can tell you is to hang in there, this WILL pass and the weight WILL come off. If you read profiles of people who are a year or two out, you'll see that they all went through the same things that we are experiencing and none of them stopped losing weight completely! Those stalls happen, even when we do everything right, but they will pass. Hang in there and remember that the 31 lbs are gone forever, unlike in the past when we would lose it and gain it all back. Hugs, Vi

okay Louise, I'm in that "stall" right next to yours! I am losing slowly too and thinking 'how the sam hill can I not be losing faster when I am averaging 900 to 1000 calories a day??? ' Mentally I know its GOT to happen but when the scale says the same day in and day out it starts to get to you But I just know if we keep on keeping on its going to go on down. I'd sure like it to go faster too!!

I'm stalled too, so I have great sympathy. I really think we all need to step away from the scales; but then that is way easier said than done, right? Maybe, since we are all so close in surgery dates and all stalled it is normal to be stalled now (this far post-op)? That's the hope I'm gonna hang my hat on . . . Kathy

Come on guys...it does and WILL HAPPEN...I have been trying on a pair of jeans that are a size 40 for the last three weeks and they FIT..EVEN if I have only lost about 1/2 pound since the last time I tried them on...we are LOSING IN INCHES..so keep the journel on inches...I can't wait until I measure on the 24th. for the second time to see how many inches I have lost...no pity party for us..., , we can do this...it is a slow and roller coaster ride, but it happens if we don't cheat and do what we are supposed to do...PROTEIN, PROTEIN, and sip the water...and keep the end moving with the water... to all of you and come on we are down this much and we will not see it again...don't forget it took this long to get big...it takes time to get SMALL..., IT WILL HAPPEN, I KNOW...AS I HAVE TWO FRIENDS THAT ARE TWO YEARS DOWN AND Went through the same thing... Dennis

I totally understand. I have only lost 42 pounds and I started out at over 300 pounds. It has been over 10 weeks. The last 5 weeks I have only lost 12 pounds. That is just so frustrating. Especially since I know my family is all watching my progress. I was so happy the first month when I lost 30 pounds but then it just stopped. I hope we start losing more soon. It would be the perfect Christmas present. Good Luck! Sara,

This must be the 3 month stall for "ALL" It had me bummed, even after I have read and read other post ops going through the same thing and telling us all to just "keep doing what you're doing," and it will come off. I have not been to this board before and so glad I came today, cause I was knew I was at a stall, but I feel a lot better now, seeing that most of us Oct 2005 post ops are stalling, must be the body thingy for sure. Merry Christmas everyone and remember we will not gain this year.

WELCOME TO OUR LITTLE FAMILY HERE, MS NANCY. PLEASE KEEP VISITING THIS BOARD. IT IS SO HELPFUL SEEING WHAT OTHERS ARE GOING THROUGH WHO HAD THE SURGERY AROUND THE TIME WE DID. WE HAVE SOME SUPER STARS WHO HAVE REALLY LOST SOME FANTASTIC AMOUNTS. BUT, MOST OF US ARE SLOWER BUT FAIRLY STEADY WHEN YOU CONSIDER THAT WE ALL SEEM TO HAVE EXPERIENCED 1 - 3 STALLS ALREADY. ALSO, CHECK OUT YOUR CLOTHING SIZE CUZ I HAVE BECOME THE "SHRINKING WOMAN" IN THESE STALLS! SO, SOMETHING GOOD IS STILL HAPPENING DURING THE STALLS. YES MA'AM, BELIEVE IT OR NOT, IF YOU STAY ON THE PLAN, THIS TOO SHALL PASS & YOU'LL BE LOSING BIG TIME AGAIN IN SUCH A SHORT TIME. CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS DAWN & NICK