Food police

Has anyone else had the problem of family members that dont even live with you criticizing what you eat?? whenever we see my mom she is constantly saying you have no self discapline you shouldnt be eating that ( it was mashed potatoes at thanksgiving). I am so frustrated with this and when I tell her I can and have even loaned her my binder from the doc and my weightloss surgery for dunnies book she still thinks she knows all. we have my family christmas party this weekend and I am so scared to eat anything there because of what she will say to try to emberass me in front of everyone. any sugestions????

YES YES YES!! I hate it!!!! If I want to eat Kentucky FRIED chicken with a side of cheesecake and a coke that's MY problem even if I do puke to death, it's still my problem. I was at work and I wanted to have a pretzel and this co-worker took it out of my hand and said, you shouldn't be eating that! I used to eat like 2 tsp of food and now I eat like 3 and my family is telling me "you are eating too much" it's like 2 oz, they were used to me eating 1oz...it's crazy! I will eat what I want when I want! GRRRRR

Go girl go ...I am not having that problem...as I don't want to go out and eat with people...but I seem to look over at my wife's plate when she eats...it seems she is eating a lot...did you say Fried Chicken, you will really make yourself sick..have you foamed at the mouth yet? One time, scared the ****ties out of me...felt like a mad dog foaming...so I was eating to fast...but how fast can you eat 5 bites...don't worry they will have to get used to it...and when we show up in 6 months that much skinner...they will ... Dennis

Dennis.. You are so funny!!! I foamed once and it will never happen again..I was so miserable...I wi**** would have scared the ****ties out of me.... Jenn

I have your problem but in reverse. My sister who I spend alot of time with, is forever telling me that she thinks I have an eating disorder. I have explained to her and everyone else that as time goes on I will eat more and more. Apparently some people just dont get it. As far as suggestion for your particular situation...I dont really have any except when I get cranky, I get brutally honest. And maybe what mom needs to hear is that you are an adult woman who made an adult decsion for yourself and althought you are her daughter YOU are aware of what the ramifications of your actions will be....so stick with being mom and not the food police. Good Luck to you! Missy

How about?? Back off pretzel girl...or back off mashed potato police? I too get grumpy when my mom nags and I am just usually very honest and if she doesn't get it I am persistent in explaining myself... My mom still thinks I shouldn't be out after dark by myself...teehee...like who is gonna live in a big city and stay home after 5:00 in the winter?? Not me... Jenn

I would say something like when you lose 60 lbs. in 3 months I'll let you tell me what to eat, until then back off. I'm very educated about what I can and can not eat at this point in my post-op recovery. If you just had a life altering surgery we could talk more about what I'm about to eat but since you didn't just worry about what you are about to eat.

see i have only lost 49 lbs since surgery so i am not a fast loser and now to make things worse it looks like we will be spending the weekend at my moms house. I am bringing my own food though because she will try to sabatoge me with high fat foods then say you shouldnt eat that btw my stall is finally over i got on the scale this morning and am starting to lose again

Thats like 25 pounds a month! You must be doing something right to lose weight like that! You are doing great and just keep telling yourself that...do let negative people minimize all the hard work that you have done so far! Good luck with all of this! Missy