What do you say when....
What is your response when someone says they feel that surgery is the "easy way out". Not in a disrespectful way nescessarily, but they feel that diet and exercise is a harder route to go. For some reason this comment from someone I love dearly has really hurt me, and I'm trying to figure out why exactly. I have made this journey appear too easy to others I suppose...LOL.
I have been blessed to have no complications and marked success. I'm not saying it has been extremely difficult either...just not "easy". Maybe people just don't see the constant struggle of the food addiction we still encounter, all of the changes and sacrifices we make like, not drinking with meals, no carbonation, no sugar (or in small quanitities), minimal food choices, always having to worry about your protein, your supplements, your fluid intake, your vitamins, the constant worry of complications like obstructions or perforations, or having to run to the bathroom due to an "issue". These things are all forever for me......and that's ok. I mean looking at this lisst, it is all worth having my health, and hopefully a longer life....and a much more fulfilling life at that, but I wouldn't say it's "easy". Just wondered what all of you thought.
Shelly
Shelly 
Shelly you are right. I feel like I traded one life threatening illness for another medical condition but this condition will make me healthy but its a trade off. I too have had no complications but that doesn't mean we have been down the easy road. I just tell everyone by no means was this the easy way out. If you knew me before you saw that I was dying, slowly. I ask that they just understand that I am working on being healthy and this was the trade off I chose, that workes for me. I really feel I traded on life long medical issue for another one. But in reality this is saving my life.
People just don't get it. And I think the want this surgery to fail. Because they just don't understand.
Jane
I tell them the surgery is the easy part, it is afterwards that it gets hard. I don't know about everyone else but I have to work very hard for every pound I loose. I exercise every day and have to watch carb intake or I stall in weight loss. I think the surgery itsself gives you a tool, it is up to you what you do with that tool.
Shelly,
I feel the same way as you. Some people think surgery is the easy way out, it's not. It's the only thing that would and could help some of us. I always thought that way, that I could lose weight by diet and exercise alone. I realized I couldn't and that surgery would help me because I would be healthier, happier. Some people I know accept it and others say I took the easy way out. I may have but I'm healthier and happier for having it done. It is a constant struggle to make sure we try to get in all our protein or liquids, remember to take vitamins, calcium, etc... It is for me as alot of times I forget.
I go to Curves and we get measured monthly and I am the biggest loser at the club and I have a GOLD STAR with my name on it. Some of the members say I don't deserve it because I cheated by having gastric bypass surgery. I tell them I didn't cheat. I told them that me having the surgery was the only way I was going to get to live a normal life, get my health back and do things I couldn't be able to before. I may have been able to diet and exercise but it may have taken me years and I would have developed some of the health problems that can be associated with obesity. Heck, I was borderline diabetic before surgery.
I also told the women at Curves, that all the health problems I had, have now gone away because I had the surgery. They still don't like the idea, but I said to them don't give a flying F_ _ _ K, what you think. I did what I thought was best for me and I'd do it again if I had to.
Some people are so unsensitive when it comes to saying things about it. I try to ignore it as best as I can, and I take from who it came from. It's not worth it to me anymore to hear what someone says about surgery. They tend to think they are know-it-alls.
Sorry this is so long, I could go on forever. I love to write and try to give feedback as best as I can, although I ramble and sometimes don't make sense, but I wouldn't be me if I didn't put in my 2 cents.
Love ya
Lisa J. in Mass
I would say, (and perhaps this is my abrasive and forthright personality coming out) that they are welcome to bend over and kiss my much thinner and much happier a$$, and if I wanted their opinion on something that they have not experienced and therefore have no personal knowledge of, I'll bend over and ask theirs.
Ok, so maybe the delivery is a little off....but I think the message is dead on.
Chin up.
Lizzie
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