why am i..........

Hi Vickie and others, I'm struggling with the same saggy breast, belly, arm, thigh, butt, even chin issues that everyone else is. And while it doesn't necessarily leave me feeling as anxious and depressed as you are clearly feeling Vickie, it does bother me, and I sure as heck with I had a magic wand to make it go away. What helps me is to remind myself WHY I did this: to restore my health. I was dangerouly obese, had high blood pressure, high cholesterol, high triglycerides, and had become diabetic overnight. I was going to die of obesity at a premature age, and miss being a grandmother, maybe even miss my own children going through some of the important milestones like graduating high school or college. So when I lament the shape of my saggy body, I try to think about the shame and humliation I felt when I weighed 299 lbs, and remind myself how lovely it is to fit in a theater seat or airplane seat. I think about my children having me alive when I'm 55, 65, even 75 or more. I firmly believe that, by having WLS, I bought myself an additional 10-20 years of life - and a more enjoyable life, not one where I will need to use an electric cart at the grocery store because I'm too fat to walk on my own. Yes, I have thought about plastic surgery. Yes, I am buying padded bras, and they have to be very full cup bras, or my saggy breasts pour out over the edges. Yes, I have to wear a full coverage bathing suit with lycra, or someone will see my droopy belly hanging out of the leg holes or breasts flopping out of the cups. Yes, it is hard to find pants that fit this new figure of mine. BUT...I am so much better off than before, and so are you. I do encourage you to try to find a therapist, talk to your surgeon's office and see who they recommend. And I encourage you to find out how you can, over time, save the money for plastic surgery. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, just as soon as I find that magic wand, I'll send a zap of happiness (and firm skin) your way! Hang in there. Sheryl

I have taken to wearing some good control top pantyhose and a good bra and feel good about how I look in my size 4 pants and small size shirts......I would like new boobs, a new butt and a new stomach, but I can't afford plastic surgery like that and so I focus on being saggy rather than morbidly obese..... I see a therapist on occasion to keep my perspective in check.....it helps alot.....