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hi all........well i am having a rough one these days. I am crying everytime i look in the mirror..........my boobs are so saggy, my belly look like a wrinkle elephant leg..why can't i just be happy that i have lost 115lbs.........im setting here at 127lbs and i feel fatter than ever.........i put on a size 4 pants which are my daughters and i was like oh my i look so fat........i dont even want hubby to touch me!!!!! plus everyone around me are saying dont loose anymore weight you look sickly.............i just cant enjoy what i have accomplished...................someone give me the way........i dont no what to do.......maybe im getting depressed...I cry everytime i look in the mirror.......who knows........I GUESS I NEED A THERIPIST...........SO ARE ANY OF YOU LIKE THIS!!!!! Thanks all...............vickie r.

Hello Sweetness, I get that way everytime before my period. I cry about my skin and boobs. But I always feel like I am still fat. I want to lose more weight. I am not talking 20 or 30 lbs. But I'd like to be around 140-135. People tell me I look like I have signs of anorexia, or I look sick. Even that I look like a bird! I think the saggy skin is what makes us feel fat! I am in a size 4/6 at 5'8" and I should feel skinny. But I don't. I lift up my skin and see how tiny I really am, but I can't get it through my head that it's the skin that makes me look fat. Even as I sit here typing, I have a big roll over my pants. I know it's skin, but it reminds me of a fat roll I had when I was big. I think we need therepy girl...lol. I know it really isn't funny, but I just want you to smile! LOVE YAH GIRL! CALL ME Erin 310/149/151 2 lbs. BELOW GOAL!

Thanks Erin...........you email me and give me your number and let me no when is a good time to call ya!!!!!!!!! I feel like im losing it really lol.............hubby says i look great.............well hubby says i looked great at 242lbs lol................i just gotta get some help..............thanks Erin.................Vickie r.

come on girl you are so beautiful and don't ever beat yourself up...my arse looks like a elephant you know what...and saggy skin and flabby skin...I would not trade my new body for anything...come on would you like to be where you were 1 year ago...don't forget...the skin issues can be fixed, just takes money...ha, ha...I am not going to worry about it...I feel good, great, beautiful and would not trade the new me or anything or anyone...come on October peeps...perk up.. at your wedding and feel beautiful... Dennis

I'm right there in the boat with you two! The last time I was this size I was in 6th grade, I've NEVER been under a 12 in my entire adult life, but I feel bigger some days than I did when I was in a size 20! I've heard it said that our surgeons didnt operate on our brains, only our bodies, which I guess is true... I battle depression on a normal day, but the days when my batwings slap against me and make a loud slapping sound, or my skin roll hangs over the waist of my pants I feel like I may as well have never lost this weight to begin with... My stepmom got all over me for losing 4 more pounds since she saw me last, but I can only think of the 10 pounds I have left till I reach 100 lbs... No advice, just wanted to say me too! Rebecca

I think us three need a group hug!! (((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))) Erin

Sending you a big ((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))) cuz I know how you feel! I'm grateful for the success I've had and the weight I've lost, but I thought I'd look better than this. Factor in being 44, having 2 kids and having been overweight for many years, the skin just isn't going to go away quietly! I feel good about myself most days, but sometimes it's quite bothersome that all this skin is hanging around - not to mention how wrinkly and saggy it is! OOOOOH it just hit me - you know what we need? Shrink wrap. Sheets of special shrink wrap for us, wrap it around those areas and wait for it to smoosh that skin back into place - and iron it at the same time I find that once I discover an outfit that really flatters my new figure, and makes me feel good in it - I wear it whenever I can, especially those rough days. Congratulations on your success - try not to see the negative, just the positive! Hugs from Miami, Jeanne

Hi Vickie you need a Mirror...you look fabulous/beautiful and don't beat yourself up...Look at where you were 1 year ago...come on girl... you are doing great....and as far as the crying...my wife does not have the wl surgery issues and she goes off on a crying jag every so often...blame it on hormones...the weight loss surgery was the best thing you could have done for yourself...so come on girl...we will and party in Las Vegas...you have done a awesome job...we have all done an awesome job...go October peeps...we are the best... Dennis

Im also like that and do see a therapist let me tell ya mine didnt work. I cry at the littlest things about my body and get so frustrated with it. my doc has even tried antidepressants didnt help. Kim

Hi my name is Connie and I'm new to the chat room. My fiancee always keeps telling me to stop looking in the mirror and picking at my self because of the loose skin and saggy boobs. He also says I look great and said the same when I weighed 240. But how he felt is not the reason why I had the surgery it was about how I felt about myself and my health issues. You have every right to feel the way you do thats exactly how I feel I'm not saying it's right but I don't think we can help ourselves. I went from a size 24 to a 8 and all I can see is the extra skin my breast were once a perky size C now I wear a padded B and am probably an A instead of perky I have and 80 year old womans boobs. How sad is that I'm only 33 years old. Even though most everyone has the surgery for health reasons I still feel we have certain expectations on how we will look. When I look in the mirror I do not see a skinny person I see someone who looks good in clothes and would give people nightmares when naked. I know their is a skinny person in their still just waiting to get out. Now what can we do about it in most cases no amount of exercise will get rid of the skin it will help though. Surgery? Hell yah! but now you need to come up with the $$$ But eventually we have no choice but to accept how we look otherwise we will be destroying ourselves and our relationships. If we can go through this kind of surgery and life change we can handle a lillte or alot of hanging skin atleast until we can do something about. Think positive look in the mirror and say I'm beautiful and I'm fabulous and work on the things you can change in your life like your attitude instead of things you cant change. Good Luck!