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Hi! My name is Connie and I had the RNY surgery in October of 2005. I have lost 110 pounds so far I started out at 240 pounds and now am at 130. I work out religously but unfortunately I am still dealing with the loose skin especially around my midsection and have bascially went from a size C chest to a padded B . Any suggestions on dealing with emotions of still feeling fat and hating the fact that you look good in your clothes but not out of them. My husband always tells me to quit picking at everything and be happy about what I have accomplished. I am happy but I feel like my journey is not over yet because this is not the body I feel I am suppose to have I still feel like there is still a skinny person waiting to come out. I am also interested in any plastic surgery stories good and bad to help me deal with and make an informed decision regarding having plastic surgery myself.

Hi Connie and welcome to the October 2005 forum. Congrats on the 110 pound loss - quite an accomplishment. I think your thoughts and emotions about your appearance are pretty normal; after losing so much weight, we want our bodies to look more "normal." Unfortunately, our skin just does not have its original elasticity. I think plastic surgeyr can help to a certain extent by making the outside of your body look more "normal." But there are also psychological issues at play here, so I would suggest talking to a counseler or attending a support group; find someplace where you can talk about what's going on. Best of luck on your continuing journey - Kellie

At this point in my life I'm not much for counselors and there are no support groups in my area that is why I'am so glad I happend to stumble onto this website. Thanks for the reply.

WELCOME CONNIE!!!!!!! Congrats on the weightloss, way to go girl!! Erin 310/150/151

Speak for yourself. Way to go by surpassing your weight goal. You look awesome I just love before and after pictures. Because most of the time you would never of known the person had a weight problem. I had my picture taken for my job which I have to wear. Alot of my patients have been asking me why I dont look like my picture or who is the person on my name tag because it cant be you. I will never change my name tag just for that reason it's a good reminder of where you came from and how far you have come.

Hi Connie, I can certainly understand your feelings. I am 5' 10", started out at 299, down to 277, and like you, I am dealing with excess skin, leftover pouches of fat, and very loose skin tone in certain areas. It has helped me to remember why I did this in the first place; all along my goal has been to reduce health risks, increase my life span and my quality of life. Never has it been about looking good. That being said, now that I am down to a reasonable weight for my height, I can't help but wish that I had a lovely body that matched how good I feel. But I look so good in clothes, compared with before, and my embarrassment in a swim suit has reduced so much, that I can live with it. But Connie, if it is important to you, go ahead ahd look at plastic surgery! I'll tell you, after going bra shopping over the weekend, I am sorely tempted to consider breast surgery to replace some of the lost tissue and shape. Congratulations on your tremendous weight loss! Best wishes to you. Sheryl

Thanks for the reply as far as the breast surgery is say Go for it ! We deserve it there is no reason we should not look as good on the outside as we feel on inside. I think sometimes we forget that or worry about appearances or even the $$$ lets splurge we deserve it.

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