someone help me understand...........

well first of all this board has been the best!!!!!!!!! I come here with all my probs, well i have a new one........i don't no who i am!!! i am getting skinny as they say.....almost 100 lbs lost....well somedays i find myself lost........like people giving me clothes,i look at them and say those won't fit me,well they did.....but why am i getting mistreated by neighbors,family..........there all jealous,they say that i looked better bigger!! what the crap....even my neighbor which is a women told me not to talk to her hubby,when i was 242lbs it was all fine ,but since i lost some weight i get barked upon, i'm getting back to the way i was before just covering up with big clothes....i wear a 10 now and med top,but i buy x large shirts to cover up........i just want to be happy........why do people have to rain on a good thing......................thanks all.. vickie r.

Don't let these folks rain on your parade! We may have our issues with food, but they apparently have bigger issues than that. Not wanting you to talk to her husband? Sounds like they have trust issues! Telling you that you looked better bigger? Sounds like jealousy and envy! Please don't allow yourself to become saddled with the emotional baggage of other people, which is what this kind of feedback is about. If people can't be happy for you, then let that be there problem. Do not allow it to become your problem. Please wear those clothes that fit you now. I'm sure you look fantastic! We've all spent so many years hiding behind big, baggy clothes; you don't have to hide any more. Let yourself be free to be the new you, even if you're still figuring out who that's going to be. And remember who you become is your choice, not the choice of those around you. Celebrate your new-found health, your weight loss, your improved ability to be more active, and the fact that you been given a "do over" with your life!!! Focus on the positive things in your life and don't allow the naysayers to get you down. You've done a fantastic job and you should be proud of yourself Kellie

I also get mistreated by my mom and my sister. The way I see it is that they are jealous and cant stand to see me happy. this is their loss not mine. I did what I had to do to become healthy. I to still have some weight to lose. but I know I will get there when the time is right Kim

Vickie you look amazing, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I can't stand it when people behave that way. I've been very lucky to have a lot of support from the people around me, but I know that's not always the case. My best friend actually started to cry the last couple of times we saw each other because she was so happy for me. I've heard stories from a lot of other people who've gotten very different reactions, so I consider myself very blessed. Please don't let anyone get you down. You're doing great and I'm thrilled for you. Hugs, Carol

I think you look terrific and you should be proud of how you look! My highest weight was 226 at 5'2".....I have lost 80 pounds and am six pounds to reach "normal weight"......at first the comments from people were great, but now I am getting things like, "you're wasting away to nothing" and " you look scrawny"!!!!!! Those people have no idea what I have gone through with my weight and I just tell them that I am a normal weight for my height now.....I do think people are jealous....I used to be jealous of people who had the surgery long before I did.....I just never said anything negative to them.....

Everyone in my office was aware of surgery. I work with 3 other girls. After my surgery things changed. It is as if they are jealous and not suppotive at all. I try to ignore it but it is very hard when they act that way. It is almost like working with a bunch of kids. Violet