Negative Comments???????

Now that I am near my goal, I have been getting a lot of negative comments that I am going to think are because of envy, but they still make me feel really bad. A few months ago A coworker told me something that depressed me for a long time, she said "Celia you've lost a lot of weight, I thought you would look really pretty when you lost the weight, because you were so pretty but sadly you don't, your face looks "chupada" (I don't know the word in english but it means like sucked out, like they sucked out all the flesh and left the bones), you looked much much better when you were heavier, you don't look as pretty as before" I'm not making it up she used those words literally, there were wittnesses, I was speechless, but finally said -well there's nothing I can do now and thanks for making me feel like sh#t!--She said, "oh I'm so sorry but I'm just being honest". That was the worst comment I' ve recieved , but since then I've recieved many many more, most of them saying don't lose more weight you look too skinny, your face is droppy, you looked better chubby etc... what's up with that? and the worst thing is I still feel fat... ! People have made me feel uglier & worst than when I was fat. Why are poeple like that?. My philosophy on life is..---If you're not going to say anything nice don't say a thing--- Thanks for letting me vent Celia

Hi Celia, I would just like to say that i think you are beautiful!!!!!! Yes people tell me vickie don't lose anymore weight.......i am 2lbs from surgeons goal........i was 242lbs now 6 mo later 152lbs. I no that people think i look sickly.......thats the comments i get. They say oh you look pale,i think you looked better when you was bigger.........im like yeah right in the back of my head. I told my hubby the other day that i dont feel great like i should, we should be celebrating our wl but all the negative people just keep all these old memories in the front of my mind. Somedays i think i look great,then others i think i look like a fat __!!! I realize we have cheek bones,which i could never see mine or even collar bones. But now i have bones i did'nt even no i had. It's like when i was fat everyone never said anything,but now all i here is bull crap...just be strong Celia,we all are in the same boat. We will always have people on us for something..................Just come to us to vent lol.................Vickie r.

Hello Weight loss Triplet!! Number one, you are HOT!! Your face, though much thinner ( which is a good thing ) has stayed the same. As pretty as you ever were. You are gorgeous from the inside to the outside. THAT IS WHAT MAKES THEM MAD! You are so pretty either way, and you are nice. So they have nothing to pick apart on you. So they are going to make comments like that because they want to be like you. You are pretty and kind and have so much going for you. You have those beautiful kids, a great man, you travel, you have a good job, and so on and so on. You decided to better yourself to live longer and enjoy what you have. This p*sses people off. People are mean to people to make themselves feel better. It's obvious this person is sad. So think of it this way. What ever they say, is because they are unhappy. Something terrible is going on in there lives. So keep your chin up, just say thank you, and walk away. If they see it doesn't bother you, it will stop. Just remember, we here all love you. We think you are great. WE NOTICE WHEN YOUR NOT AROUND AND WORRY ABOUT YOU!! You have so many people that love you in this world, that what a few idiots say should make no difference!! WE LOVE YAH CELIA!!! Erin

Celia, I wonder what people are thinking when they say things like that. I have been getting comments, too. When my DH was getting prepped for his RNY, his nurse was giving him a hard time saying things like "Are you sure? It's so drastic? Why not the lap band?" He was just being nice to her and I told her I was 6 months out and had done wonderfully. She came across the other side of the bed to look me up and down and says "I can't believe it, you didn't need that, you're so skinny." I said "I didn't look like this 6 months ago." She said "I only want to lose 30 lbs., maybe I'll gain some weight so I can have it done." FROM A NURSE. I'm glad he was only with her for a few minutes. Then on Mother's Day my aunt was telling me she was envious (she has always been skinny). I told her not to tell me she was envious, because she certainly wouldn't want to be 100 lbs overweight. That shut her up. I must still have quite a bit to lose, though, because no one has told me I need to stop yet. My philosophy is the same as yours - If you're not going to say anything nice, don't say anything at all. It's pretty simple. Marcia 251/152/130

I too get those comments. You are Soooooo skinny!!, But do you feel okay? Are you sure you feel better? You look tired, when are you gonna stop losing, how will you stop losing.....they go on & on & on!!!!! I'm glad to know it's not just me, but I'm sorry for the ignorance of others that we must all face! That's all it is. They have no idea about our surgery & even though some folks are trying to find out more or are trying to be helpful, they end up hurting us in the process. I agree, if they don't know, they should keep it to themselves! We go girls!!!!!! Gina L

Gina that is exactly what it is IGNORANCE, I had never thought about it, but I remembered before I had my surgery, I had no idea how the Gastric Bypass worked or what it was. Yep...people are still not very educated about obesity being a disease & how the gastric bypass works. Celia

So far I have been real lucky. I have had mostly positive comments. But some are negetive about a friend of mine. She had surgery over a year ago, and I keep getting comments like, "well you look so healthy not like Lisa She allways looks so sickly." and many others like that. But they will probubly be saying the same thing about me if I ever lose this weight. I have about decided that this is as low as I am going to go. I have been stalled here over a month and that is OK. I am in better shape than I have been in my adult life. What more can I ask? Deb

Girl all I can say is this. If anyone thinks you aren't pretty they need their eyes as well as their head checked. I think whoever said that has to be nuts as well as jealous. Hang in there all will be fine. Rick

Thanks so much...you are too kind... Celia

I actually think you are very pretty but i have had to deal with my own negetive comments from family and friends to hell my bf even calls me his bag of bones now that he found out im bulemic but he says it just kidding around my mom still buys me clothes in size 24 because she says they will fir me eventually again as for my face it never has been really fat so no one comments there but my thighs are so gross its extra skin everywhere i dont even like to wear shorts Kim