I live in Southern California and would like to know more. Connie Baker

Hi Carol I think I have replied to most of your comments in previous responses. The notion that love does not make conditions in a marriage is romantic but hardly practical. Women have left their husbands for years because of, e.g. their alcaholic problems, despite loving them. My ex husband knows what I went through with the surgery because I had to go over it again and again for him when he didn't want me to have it. I don't understand how you can see that I really love him I have been to extensive therapy lately and apparently (according to my psychologist) I searched him out as an eating partnet - not a lover. I am still sorting through that one and wondering if that may be correct. He tries to hide his binging from himself as much as me. It's all part of the food addiction. I did it myself at a certain time in my life. I hid food even when I lived alone because I didn't want to face it. Of course I get angry when I see him binge because I get scared. He is only 5"7 and weighs about 300 lbs - almost all of whom reside on his stomack. Naturally I can't blame him for that but I am angry at him for not caring enough about himself to try something - anything! I have offered to cook Atkins meals, go with him to a personal trainer, help him count the calories, offered to introduce him to a wonderful therapist and so on. No dice! Everyone keeps telling me that I cannot change my husband and they are right. However, the changes in my own life have resulted in our marriage breaking up. My husband and I are splitting up but I am coming together. I love myself as I have never before. For the first time in my life I am not afraid to live Best, Kolla 304/194/140 (110 done and only 54 left )

Karla, Congratulations! Don't worry about missing the exact Century Club number on the scale... you made it! At my 6 month check up, my surgeon was very pleased that I lost a hundred pounds in six months. She also said to relax, the loss will slow down at this point but I (and other wls patients) should continue to lose for the nex 6 to 12 months. My doctor never gave me an actual goal weight, she doesn't do that, but her assistant told me that it would not be unrealistic to lose down to 140lbs. I am telling you this because we started around the same weight(I was a bit higher than you) and we have lost around the same amount. I don't know your height, but hopefully this encourages you a little bit. Also, I have noticed that as hard as it is, when I try not to jump on the scale at every chance I get, I feel a little better. For quite some time I weighed myself EVERY time I went into the bathroom, and sometimes I even went in the bathroom just to weigh myself. But now I limit myself to when I first wake up and when I get ready to go to sleep...at the MOST! It tends to work better if I skip a day or two, then I notice a loss without feeling quite as bad from not seeing the scale move. I also use My Yahoo for my home page and it has a little option called the diet tracker. It is a great little gadget, you enter your starting weight and goal weight and the lenghth of time you want to make it in and then weigh in periodically, as much as you want. It then shows a graph of your weight loss and tells you what percentage you have accomplished, but the thing I like about it most, is that when you weigh in you can look over all of you past weigh ins and it helps to actually see the progression of your weight loss, it really helps me feel better when I feel like my loss has stalled. Try to check it out, It really does help to put it into perspective... especially when I look at my percentage... I am 73% toward goal! Good luck girl, and try not to let the progress of others get you down. We are all different and you are doing wonderfully! WELCOME TO THE CENTURY CLUB BABY!!!! Amber 304/196/?

Hi all, just thought I would add my two cents! I worry about the same thing as all of you as I can eat almost a whole burrito at Taco Bell. If it is a soft food whatsoever I can eat a cup full. Then I worry and worry about it. But then if I eat something that is high in protein such as chicken I can only get in about 4 oz's. Maybe some of you can try that little test out. It really helps to remind me about how small my pouch is and takes the worries away. Take care!

Why are you trying to make him change his ways. YOU decided to have the surgery, not him. One can not change another. Only he can change himself when he has the desire to eat healthy. Yes I'm playing the devil with you. Put yourself in his shoes,really. Had it been him that had the surgery, would you stop your way of eating. I dont think you would. Its hard to break a habit that you enjoy,wether it be good or bad for you. Just because he has not changed doesn't mean that he won't in the future. Maybe he is testing you, yes he probably wants the comfort of his wife eating food with him. Why is he afraid to eat in front of you You sound like your on his back, because you changed your way donn't expect him to. Love does not make conditions in a marriage, love is rescepting each other for what an who the people are. Don't expect one person to change just because you did. Its wonderful that you have, you not only have weight loss but good health.Go the counseling.I see you really love him but are frustated.bless you I can say these things.my husband is big an wants me to eat with him. solution. I brought out a 4 oz cup and showed him what my stomach can accept. Please take this with love. I don't think your husband truly understands the surgery and the size of your stomack.