Yes - It is the strangest thing since don't think I've changed that much, except for weight loss, less depression, less tolerance for negative BS and his insecurities have appeared with a vengence. And I'm still no string bean. Need less contact with him (thankfully don't live together) because as I start to feel good for a change instead of the dreadful depression and hopelessness I always felt before, I just don't want to be around it, unless he is behaving - but it was his misbehavior and insecurities that came into the picture before I decided to distance myself. It was as if he was pushing me away - so I took the clue. Still talk, but not as frequently. It has been a bit tough, since we were best friends and talked 3-4 times a day - now, maybe 1-2 times a week. You look awesome in your new picture by the way. Think I'll paint my toenails this weekend - before I could hardly reach them to clip them. Ahhhh... simple pleasures!!! And, I'm finding myself taking more care in my appearance and grooming. Am concerned I'll not get to goal at this rate though. Had a bit of a struggle with the food cravings - now that has eased back after the appetite came back. Thank God - it will still be easier to make the right choices with food. I just can't stand that undeniable obsession and urge to eat and it was so nice to have that go away after surgery. I was afraid it was coming back, but think it is going to work out just fine. Hang in there with the hubby. You'll be fine, whatever happens. I just put my foot down with my friend and he has soft peddled his attitude the last few times I've talked with him. Maybe you can just let him know what you will and will not tolerate. I had to get to the point of being willing to let go if that is what I need to do for my own peace of mind and well-being. But we still have contact. Hope it works out for you.

I also seem like a snow loser but I don;t eat drink and eat enough, although I have been able to eat a little more. Surgery 235 Loss 90 Today 145 Goal 125 (20 lbs to go) I can now wear size 8 jeans and medium tops I really need to up my excerise.

Congrats!! That is an awesome feeling, isnt it? Susan

Im finding that im having some problems with the hubby. As i now lost the weight and look better than i have since i was an early teen im of course spending more time an effort on me an doing things like shopping for clothes that are well girlie and nice. Im tanning at a salon. Oh and i got them airbrushed manicure nails to boot. Im wanting to dress up. I care what i look like and i guess im becoming what i used to refer to as high maintance. Its not that i want the designer jeans and bags or anything its that well im enjoying being able to wear things i only dreamed of wearing and im liking the fact that i feel like a woman again instead o just a being. Herein lays the problem. Hubby is like what are you doing that for. Why do you want to tan. Isnt that shirt a lil snug. Why are you putting on makeup who is the makeup for? Its driving me out of my mind. He is in the army and he leaves for two three months shortly and he is becoming so insecure. Its like im doing all this to impress someone else when it just for me really not even for him as much as it s for me. I like feeling like a woman again. Also im finding that im less and less tolerant of bull@&*#. Before it was he would drink lie to me and id roll over and forgive him. Now its like you know what lif is too short for bull*@&! pick up the pace and get with the program or get lost. Before surgery i was way more tolerant of his crap now im like ya know what I dont deserve to be lied to and if it ws looking like we weree on the verge of splitting id be terrified...now its like umm well if your gone be less stressful. Its like im not worried like before. I remember thinking pre op about other gals and them leaving cause their husbands were not living up to thier end of the deal and thinking ohhh there she goes onto another man wonder whats shes gona do when her looks die out and she doesnt have that to fall back on. You would think that with the weight off that he would be estatic and pleased and supportive but no its back to hs old ways im im getting rather bored of it real fast. Anyoe else experiencing similar things out there kindest regards deborah gale 283/174@gaol

did you lose weight prior to surgery what do you mean preweight 54 pounds. Are you tall? Size 12 if you are tall is very good im a size 12 now at 5 10 and im at goal now. I lost 110 but i didnt loose anything before surgery. I lost it all afterwards. Girl i wish i still had the girls they have all but gone i went from a nice d cup 42 d to 34 b maybe a c. Wish I still had em. As for updating you profile to reflect you had surgery that is done up top from where you go in to do your journal entries scroll back up tp the to0p it wil say you are and then there will be a box hi the drop down thingy on the far side and select post op its above you name and everything way way way up top of that page Anyways email us back with more info and we will all put our heads together and see what we can do to help. kindest regards deborah gale