WOW moment

here is a wow moment went to a bar with the hubby wore a catsuit size med an 8 whoo hoo i still cant beleive it and heres the wow moment (well 3 hours more than a moment) the hubby spent his time there glaring at guys who dared to check out his women and made sure he held my hand like 90% of the time WOW funny i thought sometimes he didnt know i was alive(sound a lil scarcastic sawwry) A few guys at my uncles work seen me and they couldnt beleive i was close to 300 just 8 months ago and made the comment "can you say major changes in that relationship i bet " See for 15 years he didnt have to worry about competition 6 foot three good looking man yadda yadda.... I was the one always dealing with issues about self esteem and someone checking my man out now the glove is on the other hand and hes having a lil trouble with it. I told him he should do what i did when faced with people checking your wife/husband out. Smile widely at the person and nod and be proud.>> I was never jealous or mad when i was with him i ws liek yep thats MY man and hes going home with me GOO day to be me eh kinda attitude. I think if more spouces took on that attitude jumped on board and enjoyed our second kick at the cat things would go alot smoother and hell even have alot more fun.

I totally agree with you...although my husband has always been jealous, but now he is insanely jealous. I tell him that he needs to relax and enjoy it. I am glad you had a WOW moment, maybe now they will appreciate us a little more!!!

well ive just about had it with the jealousy thing....last night he called me a ****imagine...after being with him for 17 years since i was like 15 had one boyfriend before him and im a **** imagine... He stated that this remark came because im talking to people now and im changing. I told my aunt about this incident and how he says me talking to people (imagine talking to people) is driving him insane...She made a good point...She said youve always been bubbly and talked with people but now he feels threatened. I guess he figured at almost 300 lbs who would be interested... So i guess me talking with people was safe...Now that im at goal size 10 its a threat....Also made acomment of ive never had to deal with competition....COMPETION imagine i said to him why do you think it is competition im married to YOU I love YOU sooo please tell me how someone in the grocery line or gas attendent or someone i ask for directions is competition over a man that i married and beenw ith through thick and thin (literally hahaha) for 17 years...Im getting to the end of my rope im trying to convince him that i live him and only him but this is gettng real old real fast... any ideas

Deborah, all I can say is I feel the same exact way you do, and It definetly seems I am going through the same issues you are. My psychologist told me that this is his problem not mine. His insecurity not mine. She told me to try and speak with him and reassure that he is the only one for me. I also have been w/ my husband for 17 years since I was 18. I believe he is insecure because he is older than I am. I wish I had an answer for you but all I can say is be patient. I believe that just like this has been a big change for us, it is a big adjustment for them as well. Good Luck and I hope we can both resolve our issues!!!