Re: Too ashamed to go

Ya know what. Thats your mother, and I'm not going to say anything bad, but you've got love here. Lots of love!!! ((((((((((((((((Wendy))))))))))))))))) When you do lose all of your weight, and she invites you to something else like this, I would tell her your too young to go to an old folks get together like that, and you probably wouldn't fit in, and say it with a beautiful smile! Sincerely, Bobbie Tate

Bobbie, My husband just asked me "what's so funny?" as I read your response. You are one cute little *****y one!!! ((((Bobbie)))) love ya girl!

Wendy, What is the old saying? "You always hurt the one you love." I am so sorry for the comment your mom made. I remember comments like that from my parents when I was growing up. It hurts to the very core. The best thing I can say is that she is the one who should be pitied. When ANYONE makes comments that are hurtful to another human being, they are the ones, who are short sighted and are missing what a wonderful person God has created. He has given special gifts to all, no matter what they look like. First, in your heart, forgive your mom for the comment she made (she may not realize how hurtful that comment was). Second, only you can decide how that comment will affect you. You are the one who is in control of your life and emotions. (I know it is easier said than done.) Third, whether you decide to go or not to the mother-daughter tea, I have offered some cothes (I still wear them since I have not had my surgery) but I have more than I use or need. The offer still stands. Fourth, remember above all else, you are God's precious child. You are love more by Him than any human could ever love anyone. Also,remember, we are also here to care and love you. Let me know what I can do for you. Eleanor

Eleanor dear, I would love to take you up on your kind offer. I live in Indian Trail and will be up in Concord this Monday for my consult. Do you live anywhere near there? What would be the most convienient way for you to do this? If you wanted to take it to a "Mail Boxes Etc." you could send it COD. Whatever would be the best for you dear. Thank you so much!!! love, Wendy W

OMG. ((((((((((((((hugs to you))))))))))))))))) I know that is hard. My mom is WAY too critical on me also. Gotta love em I guess. I just hope I never treat my kids the way she has treated me. I hope all the support here can help you make it thru this. Good luck to you dear LaDonna

Hi Sweet LaDonna, Thank you for the great hugs! I know that I purposed *not* to be like my mom was with my own children. And by the Grace of God ... I have not been that way with them. They are grown now ... kind, caring people. How old are yours? Thank you so much for writing love, Wendy W

Wendy, I'm so sorry that your Mother is like that. But you know what? It's GODS house not hers. I'm positive that you would be accomodated if you attend, and I agree with Barbara, wild horses would not keep me away. Borrow an outfit if you must, hold your head high, and go enjoy yourself. Oh and when you sit down and the chair doesn't creak, just give your Mom a nice winK!! Take care sweetie and know that you have lots of love and support on this site. Donna F

Thank you Donna ... I really do feel loved here. I loved the "wink" to my mom about the chair!! I'm going to brave her not really wanting me to be there and go. love, Wendy W