I am sooo NEEDING YOUR GUIDANCE GUYS !!

Ok I have one question that I AM SURE has been asked talked about more than once, but here it goes any way guys!! I am a little over 8 months post op about 60 lbs from goal weight....My b-day is today I turned 29 and MY CLOCK IS RINGING MY EARS SOOOOOOOOO LOUD. I know you need to wait 12 months per doc orders, but my ob told me 3 months ago that if it happened it was no big huge deal that I would be watched carefuly and taken care of...But you see about a year before my surgery I had a miscarraige after trying for over 5 years to get pregnant...I really want to stop using protection and let nature take its course if it is ment to be by God it will happen. BUT I am scared to death that I will blame myself again if I have another miscarraige and be back into a really really deep depression....PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some guidance here ...I NEED THIS SOOOO BAD....I am fighting a battle inside myself I feel that I can not win any time soon without some help from somewhere.... Thanks for being there you guys. Rachel

tick tick tick - damn clock! I'm sorry to hear about your first loss. I can't imagine it. I'd really follow your surgeons orders. He's the one who can fix stuff up for ya if ya need it. Or better yet, have your surgeon and your ob rap. See what they come up with. Do a teleconference with you sitting there in once office with one of your physicians and phone the other. Remember to set up a time. That way all 3 of you are on the same page at the same time. Your physicians could develop a "team" plan. Yeah...that's what I'd do! Good luck!

Rachel, Please don't think that a miscarriage is in any way your own fault. I had three of them, 2 before my first child and 1 before my second child. The first one shocked me to death. It never occurred to me that I would have a miscarriage. Then the second one in a row made me feel like, oh well, what did I expect? The fact is, 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in a miscarriage. That's 25% and that's a big percentage, and they are not your fault. One thing my doctor did after 2 miscarriages was check my progesterone (sp) with a uterine peel (yuck, don't ask how) and found my progesterone level was low. So we started treatments and the next pregnancy went fine. Maybe you can have your doctor check for that before you start trying. Lisa G

Rachel, I'm sure you feel the pressure because you are "pushing" 30 now. What is a few more months? Your body, physically and emotionally, has gone through a LOT. It needs time to recover. These next 4 months could go by real fast. Then just think what a "fine" momma you will be. Follow surgeon's orders. Karen

Rachel, Follow your surgeons orders... Talk to him and see what he thinks. As far as that clock... it NEVER shuts up. If it is not ticking for one thing it is another. Hang in there and use this time to prepare your body, home and soul for the little one. Call your docs and see what their advice is for now. Judy

Rachel, I can't be much help, but I'll tell you what came to my mind as I read your post. My grandma was 36 when she got pregnant with my uncle, my mom was 36 when she got pregnant with me, my aunt was 36 with my cousin, and my sister was 36 when she got pregant with her twins. My sister-in-law was 36 when she had her first child. I'M 36 NOW Having said that... my kids are 18, 15, and 14. And the last thing I better get is pregnant. Try not to think about 29 being a ticking clock. Many women are waiting until much later in life to have their children. As a teacher, I can tell you that kids that have older parents are (for the most part) better educated, better adjusted and better behaved than the ones that have younger parents (mine excluded ). Good Luck with whatever God has in store for you. Jackie