:shrug: Angry at the attention?

Hello to my WLS Buddies! Have any of you experienced anger at the extra attention that you're receiving, now? I've found myself getting irritated at people who didn't act like I existed before, and are now talking to me. I think to myself, what was wrong with me before I lost the weight? I'm still the same person! I guess it's just another stage that I'll have to get through. Boy, it's really a "skinny" world out there, isn't it? lol I'm proud of all of us! Keep up the good work, and it is work, no matter what other people may think!Love ya'll, Jane 362/232

Jane, I can relate about people "suddenly" noticing us. It has not made me mad but more like "heck, How can a woman who wieghed 355 pounds have been invisable?!?" Go figure. Now I am glad people at least treat me like I am part of the human race. You by the way are doing awsome!!!!! Keep up the good work. Tanya

Jane, I have been a wee bit angry at this myself. I seem to get offered more help at the stores alot more hellos and how are you's are thrown my way. I even had one guy give me the up and down look. I was repulsed. It isn't what is on the outside that matters, it never has for me. I am so thankful for my wonderful husband who has loved me through thick and thin Blessings to you

I have also noticed this phenomonon. I wonder if it is because I look better now or if I carry myself with more confidence. I know I walk with more bounce in my step. I also have new clothes and feel so much better about my appearance. That shows through to the world. Attention doesn't bother me, I have always been a social butterfly. Last week I went to lunch with a lady who I just met at church. She is overweight and told me it bothers her. I said, "I know what you mean." I showed her my drivers licence. I felt bad for her, because I really do know what she is going through. Karen

Hello Jane I have been experiencing "anger" but because I am no longer over weight. My sister-in-law has really made my life terrible. Mother's day was not the best at the in-laws. Comments were made about how my skin is saggin underneath my chin how I no longer have a healthy glow. . Its a mess. . As much as I do not want the words to hurt me they do. But I am trying to stay positive because I love the new me and hubby does too. SO who cares right. Sad but I do. At one time she was my best friend. .

Marie, It sounds like some members of your family are jealous and not happy for you. Sagging skin is much better than diabetes or multiple weight problems. I wouldn't give them a second thought. As long as you and your hubby are happy that's all that matters. Blessings~

Thanks. I know what you say is true and I am soo glad that I am no longer taking meds and healthy but words still hurt especially from people that you have grown up with. You always have that faith that they should be your support. Hubby is always supportive which makes it awesome and I have family that is too, but it just takes one person to make you sad thanks for the encouragement and reminder of a healthy life. Marie

Marie, I'm sorry you have to deal with this negitivity. I have only had positive feedback on my surgery and weight loss. I wonder if your sister-in-law is jealous. Is she a queen bee type and wants all the attention? I wonder what she would do if you replied with, "Why are you so negitive? I wish you could be happy for me." Then walk off. Remember people can only continue to hurt you if you allow it. I used to be the biggest whimp. I don't know if it's age or experience, but I stand up for myself better now. You need to do that too. Karen