Our minds are trying to adjust, too...

I know that everybody is seeing the changes in our physical appearance, but have any of you thought about the mental changes that we're going through, too? We have to reprogram our minds to the reality that we "fit in to society", now. Here's an example, from my own personal experience. My husband and I went to a baseball game(I hadn't been able to go in years) I felt very uncomfortable sitting in between people, instead of sitting on the end. For the obvious reason, I didn't want to climb over people. When I told my husband how I felt, he said that I had to realize that I wasn't that 362lb. woman, anymore. Makes sense, but my mind still saw that fat person trying to get by people. So, if any of you are feeling blue, this may be why. Remember, our bodies and minds work together, so we have to try and get them on the same page! Your weight loss friend, Jane

Jane, you are right. I was in Target the other day and saw myself in a full length mirror. I had to double take because I didn't realize it was me. I have an identical twin who is the weight I am now. I keep thinking it is her in the mirror or on the video tape. For the last 20 years I have been the fat one and she was the thin one. Now I weigth less than her. She is very happy for me too. I am fortunate not to have a spitefull sister who gets jealous. Karen

Hi Jane. You know maybe that is it. , . All my life I have never considered myself as thin. Both my sisters were always thinner and now I am thinner than my youngest. It is not that I am not happy about the weight loss I am I am, it is that I sometimes miss the food. I eat a little of mostly everything, but at family gatherings everyone is piling up their plates and well you all know how much we eat. I can not seem to break the bond that I have had with food all these years. If I was happy I would eat if I was sad I would eat. Now what?? Silly I know. I just need to work on dealing with the food demons and my brain really needs to catch up. The image of the chubby girl is still facing me. Marie

Jane, I have noticed that I have started a habit I never had before surgery and that is that lately I always seem to cross my arms in front of me now I have tried to catch myself before I do it but I just can't understand what I am hiding. KAthy 318.5/227.5/-91lbs

Hi Jane, Yes, you are right about the mental/emotional changes. I am trying to adjust to men being nice to me now instead of me being invisible. I am trying to not feel like the biggest woman in the room. I am trying to recognize the woman in the mirror. I wonder when our bodies and minds will synch up?? Hugs, Maria