Co-workers/ Family Memebers

Has anyone had any trouble with support from Family and or co-workers? I am considering not telling my co-workers what type of surgery i will have done. Do you think this is a good idea? Also, my mother who had this same surgery done over 25 years ago is not a very supportive person and never has anything positive to say. I was also thinking of not telling her that i am having this done. On the other hand i think by hiding the fact that i am having it done is going to cause me more stress later. If anyone has any feedback on this i would love to hear it. Thank you

Charlene, you are going to have Co-workers/Family and some friends who are going to be negative about you having the surgery. you have to realize that you are the large person not them, and sometimes the negative comes because they don't want to see you smaller then them. the only person you need to talk to is God. He will give you and honest answer. Keep the faith. I just had the surgery on October 22, 2003

My husband and I discussed the process of the surgery and then we told our children. Everyone that lived with me knew I was having the surgery. When I told my sister and mother they said that I should be able to lose the weight without surgery that I was crazy. I told them that I was not asking for opinions I was just letting them know. I was concrete on my dicision and they did not say much after. My co-workers were shiffty, some said good some said no. The ones that said no don't do it, could not come up with a logical reason as to why not. My family and co-workers are alll amazed how great I look and feel. I am a new person. I have almost lost an entire person and it feels great. In regards to your mother, if you are afraid to tell her, wait until the day gets closer, then let her know. If she had surgery 25 years ago, she might be thinking of the old technology and medical skills used at the time. Talk to her let her now thing have changed and take her to a support group if you have any in your area. If that does not work, just tell her your going to do it regardless. She's your mom, she is going to be there regardless......... I hope this helps you. It worked for me. Evelyn Miami, Florida 06-24-03 GB -80+

Tell your family because in the end, it would come back to bite you if you didn't. But, be firm. Explain that it's your decision and you're happy with it. Ask them to be supportive or quiet. As for coworkers, I haven't told any of mine. I don't think any of them would really understand. My friends, however, have been a godsend. They stand behind me 110 percent and that means everything. Also, church is a great support. You're right that hiding things will just add more stress and that's the LAST thing you'll need. congrats on your decision and good luck!