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I just now arrived home from the hospital after going through with my Lap Band after feeling very much like you do! I can't tell you how scared I was right there at the last few moments! I felt like I was doing everything I was doing for the very last time... You need to figure out if you are ready to change your life to lose the weight and live a longer, happier life with the surgical procedure you are about to undergo.
When I received final word, I immediately started on my liquid diet, and found it interesting to really enjoy it! ha! YEP, I did... BUT, the truth of the matter was: I was ready to change my life to be sure to be able to be here longer for my family and loved ones. It was a decision I had to make for ME to be able to offer me to them for as long as I can make myself live in this world. I can only live as long as I am healthy, and at 292 pounds, that would not be long with all of the family history I share...
I hope you will decide what you want to do, and make the commitment to join us. You have a tremendous support group right here. The surgery was truly a breeze. I am so happy I made the decision to undergo the procedure, and make the commitment to my life.
I hope my words are helpful to you. Your feelings are valid, and are shared by several people who will be altering their bodies to do one thing that is practically impossible for the majority of us on this site.
Good luck to you!!!
Maria
When I received final word, I immediately started on my liquid diet, and found it interesting to really enjoy it! ha! YEP, I did... BUT, the truth of the matter was: I was ready to change my life to be sure to be able to be here longer for my family and loved ones. It was a decision I had to make for ME to be able to offer me to them for as long as I can make myself live in this world. I can only live as long as I am healthy, and at 292 pounds, that would not be long with all of the family history I share...
I hope you will decide what you want to do, and make the commitment to join us. You have a tremendous support group right here. The surgery was truly a breeze. I am so happy I made the decision to undergo the procedure, and make the commitment to my life.
I hope my words are helpful to you. Your feelings are valid, and are shared by several people who will be altering their bodies to do one thing that is practically impossible for the majority of us on this site.
Good luck to you!!!
Maria
Tom,
I am almost 2 weeks out since my RNY. I have been fat (no since sugar coating it) all my life. There have been probably 5-6 times I have lost more than 100 pounds. Never to goal weight, but close. But I couldn't maintain it. I would gain back all I had lost, plue. I was sick of battling obesity! So I thought RNY was my best option for a TOOL for weight loss and maintaining it. It is scary, and a personal decision, but so far I am extremely happy I had it done. I also lost 30 pounds before my surgery, quit all diet coke which I drank gallons a day, quit the smoking habit I had had for 25 years, and exercise daily. My surgery really has changed me.
I hope this helps you and I hope that you make the right decision that is best for you.
I am almost 2 weeks out since my RNY. I have been fat (no since sugar coating it) all my life. There have been probably 5-6 times I have lost more than 100 pounds. Never to goal weight, but close. But I couldn't maintain it. I would gain back all I had lost, plue. I was sick of battling obesity! So I thought RNY was my best option for a TOOL for weight loss and maintaining it. It is scary, and a personal decision, but so far I am extremely happy I had it done. I also lost 30 pounds before my surgery, quit all diet coke which I drank gallons a day, quit the smoking habit I had had for 25 years, and exercise daily. My surgery really has changed me.
I hope this helps you and I hope that you make the right decision that is best for you.
If I lived on the moon, I would only weigh 24.4 pounds.
Hi Tom.....
I hope you haven't fallen completely off the wagon. You only have a couple of more days until the surgery. I know its been a long road but if you give up, all that hard hard work will have been for nothing. The support will change once you have a different out look and you need to see yourself a year from now and just imagine how much healthier you'll be!! Going thru WLS is not easy...for me I think I will always struggle with wanting to finish everyone's leftovers and my idea of snacking is actually a meal for normal people....so now we have to learn new habits and leave are old life style behind on the operating table. That's how I saw myself waking up from the surgery...the new healthy me is born!!
Hang in there!! God Bless!!
I hope you haven't fallen completely off the wagon. You only have a couple of more days until the surgery. I know its been a long road but if you give up, all that hard hard work will have been for nothing. The support will change once you have a different out look and you need to see yourself a year from now and just imagine how much healthier you'll be!! Going thru WLS is not easy...for me I think I will always struggle with wanting to finish everyone's leftovers and my idea of snacking is actually a meal for normal people....so now we have to learn new habits and leave are old life style behind on the operating table. That's how I saw myself waking up from the surgery...the new healthy me is born!!
Hang in there!! God Bless!!
Hi Tom - I'm sorry to hear your family is not supportive, but don't give up on them. The more knowledgeable they become about this "tool" for you to change your life, the more likely they are to come around. And when they step back and realize that your are doing this for yourself AND for them, that might give them pause for thought. I'll be thinking of you - our surgery day is the same! Best wishes, Sandi
Hi Tom,
Keep the focus on you not on them.
You should be considering WLS for what it will do for you...that hasn't changed
Might you address this concern with your family....seek to share how their behavior impacts you but don't expect to change them. If your focus is on you...you can succeed. If your focus is their behavior you will probably fail.
Good luck
Dr Mike
Keep the focus on you not on them.
You should be considering WLS for what it will do for you...that hasn't changed
Might you address this concern with your family....seek to share how their behavior impacts you but don't expect to change them. If your focus is on you...you can succeed. If your focus is their behavior you will probably fail.
Good luck
Dr Mike
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Hey there it's the 2nd of October. I just read your post and I am hoping that the 30th of September was a GREAT day for you. I haven't gotten my date yet, and the waiting game is horrific. But hey I have waited this long..... I pray you find comfort in knowing what you are doing is something that will postively benefit you and those around you. For you to have made this decision means you are ready for a change. OK so GET READY GET SET GOOOOOO. Off to your new life. Congratulations to YOU!!!
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