Depression Concern

Hi gang, it's me again with another question...and being that their are mostly women here (I am not at all trying to be sexist) I am not sure if this will make sense to any of you.   Doing okay in terms of recovery as its been 1 week post op now.....just glad to be home

I am not one who has EVER had ANY depression issues nor one to get emotional under even the most upsetting of situations. All you need to do is look at my profile on here and you would know that I am just not one to get upset much or depressed.

That being said something happened the otherday that got me so upset I couldn't (sorry to sound corny for those men here) but I couldn't hold some tears back and feel a bit depressed.

My little girl who is 2 and a half now came over to give me a hug and tell me she loves me... She then asked for me to pick her up and give her a hug. I told her I couldn't and she got so upset....that's when I just got emotional for a couple minutes that I couldn't hold my own little girl... It triggered all sort of what I can only describe now as depressing thoughts like what did I do to myself etc...

I'm sorry to air this out on the cyber waves, but perhaps maybe I just needed to vent this somewhere and maybe that's the therapy I need.

Reason I was so suprised by this emotional flood, if you will, is that it's not like me to do something like that...

Okay sorry for rambling about all this...

Steve

Hi, Steve!  Don't feel bad for venting, we are all on the same journey and venting is what keeps us sane (sorta lol).  I too had some very strong emotions/depression, etc right after surgery.  My hormones went bonkers for a couple weeks and I was all over the place.  The way my Docs explained it to me is that hormones (Estrogen namely,and yes, guys have a little of that too) are fat soluble hormones (or stored in fat) so as you lose fat, your system is flooded with hormones.  (I couldn't wait to share that one with DH lol).  One question though, were you on any kind of anti-depressant meds pre-op, even if you were taking them for an off-label use (i.e. Wellbutrin to quit smoking or Cymbalta to help with chronic pain)? That's the only other thing that came to mind, if you were on them pre-op it would be normal post-op to have a bit of the blues as your body works the chemicals out of your system.  I hope my semi-explanation is somewhat helpful.  Best of luck with your recovery!    Jen

I've always been a person with my emotions in check but after surgery.... cried when I was folding socks... yeah socks. It's the effects of having surgery it's also all the hormones in your body just flooding out with weight loss. Don't hold back the tears and just keep mointoring the progress and if you don't see it improving talk with somone!

PS I thought for two weeks after surgery what did I do to myself?? Now only 2 1/2 months out I'm thinking what would I had been hadn't I done this?

Steve!!!!!  I thought it was just me!  I am a freakin emotional wreak!  I cry over almost anything and the 1st few days out, it's been 1 week as of today, I have been crying and asking myself if I made a big mistake.  I'm guessin that this is all normal.  I also haven't lost enough weight to prove these fellings otherwise...yet.  Cheer up!  We'll be okay!

Blessings,

Candy

I am new to this board but get grreat strength from it . First of all let me say as a man that you are not weak for being emotional. My wife is pre op and been talking about surgery for 3 years now and just got a surgery date 11-25-08 will be her big day! About 8 months ago she told me that she was ready to do this and I freaked out . The last 3 months have been an emotional rollercoaster for me ,one day I'm ready for surgery and the next day I'm thinking are you nuts ? Enough babbeling ,let me just say that its been rough for me as a spouse and can imagine that as a post op life has to be tuff in the begining but hang in there we are all pulling for you !!!