Why are they eating around me??????

Is there anyone that can relate to how I feel. Am I wrong to feel betrayed when my family all munch and stuff their faces in front of me? Why do I feel they are being insensitive? I realize that it was MY decision to do this so why do I feel this way? I just want to be alone until I can learn to cope with this lifestyle! Literally at this moment I am surrounded by a room full of smacking mouths on McDonalds meals. I am trying to type as loud as I can to tune them out. I am only 2 1/2 weeks post-op. I am on a soft diet. I have yet to see the benefits of wls. I know my latter will be greater....I pray!

Hi Sheneika, we are WLS sisters. I had my surgery the same day as you! Yes, i understand the eating thing. One day my husband comes into the living room where I was sitting and starts chomping down on his dinner right in front of me. I swear he is eating louder and louder! ANyway I had to tell him to please leave the room and do NOT eat around me. I feel the same way about not being able to tell I have had the surgery. I don't know when it will start showing, but sometimes I wonder if it is even going to work. I don't know why I am t hinking this.

I hear ya! But, please dont be discouraged! I actually hit a low point at 2 1/2 weeks out emotionally and everything seemed to affect me. Now, at 4 weeks, I feel like a new person!!!! I am on chopped foods and can enjoy my food(even if its a lot less) while others are eating. You will soon see amazing results! I was so down, but this last week has been such a turn around! Best to you! you are in my prayers!

Sheneika - Look at this as your life in training. Someone is always going to be eating something that you can't have. I know how you feel. My 1st week post-op, my daughter came walzing in with KFC. I laugh now, but back then I coulda cheerfully strangled her! I grabbed her bag from her and just started inhaling the aroma. She said "Mama...don't smell all the good stuff out of it!!!". There's been several times that my daughter and husband has brought stuff in that I couldn't have and dearly wanted to have. But then I start thinking about why I'm doing this. Even with my mouth watering.....I DON'T WANT THAT JUNK BACK IN THIS BODY. This is my only "do-over" and it was a gift from God and I sure don't want to mess it up. I talked to my family and told them how hard it is for me to see them eat this stuff, and they don't do it much anymore, in fact, very rarely. I try to fix meals that ALL of us can eat. Since I am mainly doing protein, I try to fix things that are still semi-soft but has a buttload of protein in. I'm not really into food food yet, still trying to get there. But when I was doing soft foods, I made baked potatoes and sprinkled mine with cheese (protein), real butter (just a dab) and ff sour cream, pepper. I could only eat about 4 bites, but it made me feel better that I was eating the same thing my family was, just not as much. Your family isn't being insensitive on purpose, they just don't understand or realize what's happening with you yet. You just have to educate them. Sorry this is so long. I so know what you are going through. But hang in there because the best is yet to come!!!! Hugs, Donna

Hi Sheneika! I feel for you. I live alone so I don't have to deal with people bringing food I can't have into the house. Although, I do get annoyed now when I have both dogs sitting on either side of me, drooling like pigs, while I eat my 1/4 cup of dinner. They must be on crack if they think I am sharing my pureed tuna with them I was on full liquids for 3 weeks, I am on pureed for two and will start soft foods next weekend. At work, most people eat salads for lunch, which really don't have a scent, so I have been lucky there too. Although, I would kill for a salad right about now. The one thing that is bothering me is all the halloween candy that has already started showing up at work. I work with a bunch of closet eaters. You NEVER see anyone eating the treats that are brought in, yet an entire pound cake or bowl of m&m's will be gone with in an hour. Only 4 people at work know I had surgery, so I have to deal with other people offering me stuff I don't want/can't have. I look at it as training myself to resist temptation. I am too early out to even attempt to try some of that stuff. Maybe you could use the time they are eating Micky D's to get your walk in. That way you will be getting in your exercise and not torturing yourself with the smells of the food.

Hi Sheneika, Your post had me cracking up!! I'll be 4 weeks out this tuesday the 10th. I know how you feel but trust me, it does get better. I stayed at my mom's house the first week and she bought fried chicken and pizza for herself and the kids and I was stuck eating jello. At that moment I had 2 thoughts run thru my mind. The first was "Why the f**k did I do this???" the second was "Oh well, it'll be worth it later." My boyfriend got pizza the two days pre-op while I was on liquids too, I could have killed him. I've just realized that yes, it would be WONDERFULto be chomping on McDonalds right now but once the food is gone think about how bad you felt about yourself after eating it. I'm down from 250 to 226 in less than 4 weeks and I eat whatever I want (within reason, no fast food or pizza) but I can only have a few bites. I'm actually changing the way I feel about food because since I can't eat exactly what I want and how much I want of it, it's just not so important to dwell on it anymore like I used to. When my fat a*s boyfriend is chomping on pizza and stuff in front of me and tries to entice me with it I just tell him that when I'm thin and goregous he'll be kicking rocks with that McDonalds in hand!! Good luck, Rachel

It is hard when others are eating yummy foods. I went to my daughter's soccer pizza party the other night and watched people devour pizza and huge salads while I had cottage cheese, a few kidney beans, and some shredded cheese. But truly, this time will pass. I keep telling myself that. And really, are those family members eating healthy? Yikes, McDonalds, KFC, pizza . . . that's why we're where we at because we ate that stuff. I'm happy to be headed to a healthier me!

Sheneika, You are not alone... I'm three weeks out and have the same problem which is being compounded by visitors from overseas. To be honest, I try not to eat at the dinner table with our visitors and family, why torture myself! A bigger problem is having foods available that drive me crazy i.e. cakes, cookies, chips etc. you know all the good things that are bad for you... I've discussed it with my wife & son but to no avail, I know they are caught between a rock and a hard place regarding our visitors and basicly I have to deal with the problem as best as I can. Mentally it's tough but I try to stay focused on why I had the surgery and loosing weight (now 38lbs) I know from my previous attemps at loosing weight that the first five to six weeks are the toughest to avoid temptation. Get past that point and keep your focus & you'll be fine. Let's keep in mind no one ever said that post surgery would be easy... Good luck

HI Seneika.....I'm 14 days out & the first time my husband ate in front of me I thought I would scream but you know once my Dr put me on cottage cheese & I ate it at least 3 times a day "regular" food no longer made me feel upset. Maybe you should be eating more protein because when you do you will see that "regular" food will no longer interest you. Try .... it worked for me. Phyllis

Hi Sheneika, I wrote a similar post to thr Main Message board and RNY on Sat. I was so depressed cause my sister and Best Friend were eating McDonalds and the scent was way to much for me. It hadn't bothered me to much before but Sat I had to leave the table and go to my room. I had buyers remorse. I know I DIDN'T want it but boy did I want it. It will get better. I also found that when everyone is having dessert at night to make some Sugar Free Hot Chocolate and that helps. Good Luck ~Michelle