CR....CRY....CRY....HELP!!!

Does anyone have times when you just cry for no reason? HELP!!!!!!! Thank you, Janet

Hey Janet! Yes! I had my surgery on 9/7. Last weekend, I spent a few days crying off and on!!! Our bodies have gone through a lot which often times shows up in our emotional state. Try to go to a support group as soon as you can, or you may have already been. This helped me so much! Also-getting out in the sunshine! But, if it helps, my crying has almost stopped, and your a little over a week behind me, so hopefully you will too!!! Best to you..and I'll say a prayer.

Thank you so much.....I have never been a cryer and this is different to me. Thank you so much for praying for me. THANK YOU FOR RESPONDING.. JANET

Hi Janet, I had my LAP RNY on Sept 6th, so I am 3 weeks post op. The other night at 1AM in the morning I went out to get the mail in my jammies,(they look like clothes) and coming back into the house I tripped on the patio and scraped my side against a wrought iron chair. I went down on my knees and the dog did not know what to think. Well needless to say, it really hurt and I did not know how bad it was, like a cracked rib or gouge in my side, etc. Well I got up, because the dog started to bark and I did not want to wake the neighbors. I went inside and checked the damage and I really scraped my side just below the bra line about 6" x 2". So I cleaned it and put Neosporin on it and changed clothes and went to sleep in the chair. I have not slept in a bed because of the pain in my stomach, so there have not been any nights with good sleep for 3 weeks. Well I was crying because of the pain, and then because my husband was out of town, and I was alone when this happened. But I still cryed, and cryed, cryed, out loud for about an hour. To me that really sounds like a baby, but I really believe that it was the stress relieving itself from the past 3 weeks. Then the next morning Jeff called and I cryed to him on the phone and then a friend called and I cryed to her on the phone! I have not cryed since, probably not any tears left!!! So crying must be normal for us who have just made the biggest change in our lives, but as long as we stop at some point we will be ok!!!! Hope you are doing ok, I sure babbled on there!!!! Dru

Dru, Thanks for answering me... I have only cried 3 times in 2 weeks so I think that is really good. I am so excited about the change in my life that is going to take place, I just can't wait!!!! I hope your side is okay....that's the last thing you needed to do was fall after surgery. I has to sleep in the chair for a week after I came home because I could not lay down, but now I can sleep in the bed. I am doing great....I can't believe I am doing so well. I have lost 22 lbs. as of today... Keep in touch. thank you, Janet

It's good to know that I am not the only one. I had my surgery on 9/06 and after the first week, I went back to school ( I am a nursing student) and my clinical instructor told everyone in my clinical group what kind of surgery I had. This was so embarrasing because I wanted to use my own discretion. Then she decided that she would not allow me to make up the days I missed and tried to have me dismissed from the program. I wanted to die. I only have 1 more year left and I have worked so hard. She kept telling my professors and fellow students that I couldn't handle the stress of being in school post op and that I should have not had the surgery until next summer. Well, I have cryed every single night for 2 weeks and feel so upset. Like I should have never had the surgery because it's ruining my life but then I get mad because I had this surgery to SAVE MY LIFE and it's noone's business when or what I do to my body. In the meantime, I have lost 30 lbs and am off glucophage and my blood pressure meds. So, hang in there sister...we are all fighting the good fight.

Thank you for responding back...I cried again yesterday. I told myself, this has got to stop!!!! Today is better. You know people can be so cruel. Just keep doing what you are doing because we are the one's that are going to have a great life and look wonderful!!!!! We are all in this together and it is going to be so good...I am so excited!!!! Janet

OK, maybe I'm just being ridiculous... but isn't it against the law for her to do that? I don't blame you for being upset... sounds like this lady needs a good lesson. I'd go to the dean of your school and at least talk to a lawyer. This HAS GOT to be protected under HIPPA somehow... Good luck! Renee

Hey thanks guys for the support...I did go to the director of the program, the associate dean and the dean of my college and they all apologized but didn't really bat an eye. I am sure they didn't want to implicate her in case I did go to a lawyer. I can't believe her either. She still is talking to my classmates about me, she told my group that I was dismissed from school and then when they let me back in, she told someone she couldn't believe they would work with me because she wouldn't have. She is the worst nurse I have ever known. But at least God has shown me exactly how not to behave. I hope she gets fired, she adds nothing to the clinical experience. Anyhow, how are all of you doing? Feeling any better? I hope so, I think that all of us are so brave for changing our lives like this because Lord knows it is not easy....Thanks again for the support, I truly apprecicate it... Love, Jessica

ok i am so glad i came ot theis post because i thought i was loosing my mind... ive also never been a cryer and now anytime anyone even calls and says hi i freaken cry.... drives me insane i hope i get over it very fast...lol