had surgery and now going on two days w/ no bowel movements
Call your surgeon.
#1. This is probably normal. I was like you except I didn't have a bm the first week. When I finally did, it was very soft, then nothing for 2-3 days, then normal and I've been normal ever since. Your body is going through a process just like you are and every body is different.
#2. I wouldn't dare take any stool softeners or anything to get you going without approval from your surgeon. I'd be scared to death something in that stuff could hurt my tummy.
If you're not in any pain, you could try another day or so and see what happens. If you're cramping or bloated, again, call your doctor.
Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear. I'm only on my 2nd week post-op and still relying on my doctor instead of me taking things into my own hands.
Good luck!
Donna