Hi Moncia. I could see if your boyfriend was the one to say something (even though it is not relevant if anyone knows how much you once weighed) to this guy, but for the friend to say something was TOTALLY inappropriate and out of line for him. Next time you are in his company (or call the guy), nicely tell him that your prior weight is no one's business but your own and you'd appreciate it if he didn't go around telling people how much you once weighed and how you lost it. It's totally up to you to tell people, not others, even if they know, how you lost the weight and if you even want to tell people. I think what he did was rude, even though he was probably trying to "pump" you up with how great you've done...MEN! As far as the preggo comment. I used to get it when I was heavy, but not as obese as I was in the end. I just let it go, say no, just a little pudgy around the middle, and then the person is usually the one who's totally embarrassed. HA! Paula

Monica, I stopped telling people right after my surgery. I really wish I never told anyone. I dont even tell the men I date. I dont have the lose skin and dont look like I was 276. So I guess I can get away with it. Until I marry again. Then the next husband will need to find out... Ouch I dread telling him take Care barb

You're in my prayer for speedy recovery... Tanya

Though I've yet to have anybody blurt out that I once was over 300lbs, I can understand where you're coming from. That is your business and if you want that info displayed, then it should come from you. I'm pretty open about my surgery, I most likely will let that cat out the bag once it's time to eat, usually because I'm sharing with my husband, people & (waiters) seem to want to know why I won't order my own meal, then I'll explain. One plus to the waiters, they'll ask if I preferr to order from the kids menu, which usually works out for me.

I was out last Friday night with my boyfriend and one of his bosses. They both had quite a bit to drink and I was the designated driver of course. Anyway I went up to the bar to order some drinks for the guys and this man sitting there told me how georgous I was. I told him thank you and then my boyfriend walked up and was talking to the guy (I guess he knew him) any way I was waiting for the drinks and over heard the two of them talking about me. The mas said yeah she is georgous and then I heard my boyfriends boss say you know she used to weigh over 300 lbs. I pretended I didn't hear anything. I had several different feelings, I was pissed at first thinking who cares and why did he have to say anything. Then I thought yeah I did weigh over 300 lbs and look at me now! I was just wondering how other ladies out there would feel. Oh and then get this, Sunday we had a friend come over with his cousin I had never met. She asked me if I was expecting!!! I stood up and said no. I know she felt stupid. Maybe the way I was sitting made me have a pooch but still. Gosh nobody ever asked me if I was prego when I weighed over 300lbs, but now they do. Anyway thanks for letting me vent! Monica