You sound like a ton brick has been lifted off of your shoulders. This is the first post in a long time like this from you! It's still a tough time, but take one day, one moment at a time and you'll get through this. Don't fall under the pressure from boyfriend to move in. You both still can be a "couple" and live apart. You need this time in your life to become an "independant person" and be able to do things on your own and not always have a MAN around! You're stong, you can do it...Why would you lose your house to move in with him? What if it doesn't work out? You'll have no where to go...Stick to your guns and be assertive with him...he'll respect you more for it in the long run, believe me. And if he still gives you trouble, kick him in the ass and find someone new! Maybe this less stress will do wonders for your heart, too... Good luck, and keep us posted on YOU! Paula

I'm glad you are feeling some peace now...take care, Pam

Hi all, I am finally home and well. Surgery for Tummy tuck, hernia repair and boob lift was on Monday Jan 8. All went VERY WELL. Surgeon was very good. I have had little to no pain( Unbelievable to me!!) and am finally home. I am having problems posting from home computer: Yes, I drove to work this am to get a handle on emails). But truely: NO PAIN!!! It feels kinda tight and stretchy and at time the wound burns a little. The biggest issue is the lower back pain: YES, lower back pain. Ya gotta walk a little hunched over and boy: the strain on the back!! YUCk, but a little heating pad and tylenol and I am just great!! I can not believe how easy this was. And I was so worried!! I am sure I am BLESSED!! I had to stay in hospital so long due to drainage. I live in Germany and their drains are attached to this pint size heavy plastic bottles and they will not release you until drains are out!! SO, WHile I was pretty ready to go , they could not until draining slowed. I am so happy with the tummy. The boobs are in the right place, gotta settle a bit, but gosh, I had forgotten they were supposed to be up there!! SEriously, I am just doing great and appreciate all the support from you all. So: next plastic surgery person: Ask any questions. I promise answers. And yes, I know everyone is different and in Germany they do things differently, but HONEST: NO PAIN!!! Hugs to all and I will keep you all updated. Jacqueline

Ilsa, Just heard the news. Oh My Gosh. I am over here in Germany. Is he at Landstuhl Hospital ( American Military)? If he is( I am right here) Is there anything I can do? Is his family here? Do they need anything? PLEASE LET ME KNOW> I can try to help if they or he needs something and is HERE!! Hugs, Jacqueline

great pump. I had it with my open gastric bypass. really helped