I am a little discouraged again

Hey guys I have only lost 7lbs since Dec 12 which in 5days will be a whole month with only losing 7lbs.I had gotten to 293lbs but have gone up to 295 and thats where I have stayed for a while now or so it seems.It seems I am on a stall again. I don`t understand this.I lose a few pounds and than bam another stall for 2 to 3 weeks.Don`t get me wrong I am happy with the loss I have had.I know we are not suppose to compare ourselves to others but sometimes when I see people who had surgery the same time or even after me that have lost much more and started at a lower weight than me I get depressed.One person that had surgery two weeks AFTER me has already hit the 75lbs gone mark.What am I doing wrong? I will admit I eat too fast and really need to slow down but other than that what? I am exercising,getting protein and water in.I don`t know what else to do.I know I didn`t gain this weight over night and it won`t come off over night its just I have been obese since the age of 3 and I am now 31 and I guess I am just inpatient(spelling?) lol.Well I guess I will go take a walk or something to let off some anger and steam.Thanks for letting me vent. Michelle

Michelle, I know that this is very depressing. It has been happening to me since month 2. I only lose weight one week a month. The other 3 it doesn't matter how much I exercise or eat- I can't lose a pound to save my life. It got me so depressed that I started eating and drinking things I wasn't supposed to because it didn't matterwhat I did. And I cried and ate alot. Then I came to the conclusion that at least I am losing weight, which is alot more than I could say for myself about 6 months ago. And I have gone through a very long process to get where I am today, and I will be damned if this surgery isn't going to work because I couldn't control my eating. So I started exercising again, and eating correctly. This is the first month in a while that I actually lost 5 pounds on one of my off weeks. I am not saying that I came to this conclusion easily. But you need to keep your chin up and thank god(or whoever you thank) that you got this chance. Because there are a lot of people out there that don't get to have this surgery like us. I hope I don't sound bossy or like I am preaching to you. But there have been a lot of people on this site who have helped me through my rough times, and I now want to do the same for you. I am sure we will or even all of u**** some rough patchs on our journies. But I also think it is good to have people who understand and won't judge you to listen in your dark hours. Christine

Hi Thanks for the reminder that some can't get the surgery like we have.Your right I do need to keep my chin up.I have lost weight and even though it seems slow I have to remember that yes I did lose weight this month even if its just 7lbs.Thanks so much. Michelle

I do have to agree with everything Christine is saying. I am so grateful to have had this surgery. I will not let my weakness destroy my chance for a long healthy life. I will no longer let food control my life. I will be strong and I will get thru this. We all will get thru this together. Hugs to all Barb

Hi Michelle, I know how you feel. It just isn't fair is it that some people just lose the weight like crazy and some of us struggle. My big problem is when I start comparing myself to others. I look at people on this forum who are my surgery twins and they have lost way more than me. IN fact I think I have lost the least!! But I keep telling myself that it is coming off, if maybe only 2 lbs a week!! And that would be a good week!!! Be patient - and I'll try to be patient too, and maybe we'll start speeding up this silly weight business. love donna

Hi Thanks I`ll try to be more patient.Your right it is coming off even if its seems slow lol it is coming off.Thanks Michelle

Michelle, I have also been on a 2week stall, I had surgery on Sept 27 and have lost 100 lbs but since then not one lb. I too turned to the board for help. With much encouragement and relief. I am still on the stall and have decided that there is nothing I can do about it. I have restarted my cycle, (two in one month) so I am hoping this is what is wrong with me. But according to my bariatric cordinator, stalls are normal and it is your body's way of getting prepared for another great big loss. So hang in there and together we will beat this beast.!!! Thanks, Angie

Dear Michelle: Don't despair! The days will go by anyway, so any weight loss is a plus for some of us who tend to be slower at losing. I was 397 before surgery on 9/20/05 and have lost 22 pounds to date. I went to my support group meeting on Wednesday and everyone tells how much they've lost. One guy had surgery just a month before me and has lost 88 pounds! Others were losing 40 or more pounds and they had surgery after I did. I realized, while I was listening to them and silently thinking, "I'm doing it wrong! I'm being bad! Yada, yada, yada..." I needed to stop and think: If I compare myself to others I will ALWAYS be disappointed. Somebody is always going to be younger, richer or smarter than I am. I realized that every other time I tried to lose weight with a group, like Weigh****chers, I frequently felt very depressed because people would lose more weight than I each week. Of course, I only focused on those "superior numbers" and didn't pay attention to the members who had lost LESS than I did or nothing at all. Anyway, the bottom line for me is to lighten up and know that my progress is PROGRESS, and that's progress! HAHAHA! Don't worry, you are doing beautifully. Keep the faith and remember, other people's weight losses are none of our business! Take care, sweetie! Mary

Michelle, I am feeling it to. We need to stick together on this and keep are heads up. The weight has got to come off. I am on a big stall to. It happens. I do the 2-3 week thing to. I am just going to up my protein and start keeping a closer eye on my food intake and also keep my excercise up. I am not going to fail my new life style. I want to be healthy. I love how I feel. I am not going to self destroy myself anymore. Hugs your way Barb

I know exactly how you feel I had my surgery Sept 29th and it seems like I lose for one week a month , but hey I am losing which I never really did before. I am exstatic that I lost 71 lbs so far I am very happy that I had WLS I know it will eventually all come off, like they say- you didn't gain it over night and you won't lose it over night . Remember the turtle and the hare ? Slow and steady wins the race.