Need a Kick in the Butt

I don't know where to begin or even how this all started, but I am in major need of a kick in the butt. If I had to guess I really have been feeling discouraged because no matter what I eat/drink and exercise I only lose weight one week a month. I know the exercise is good for me and the food will make me healthier. I really haven't been eating much of anything lately and what I do eat is defentely not protein. Up until now I have been so good about what I eat and now with Christmas coming and my husband and I really aren't getting along I have been emotional eating all over the place. Last night I got up in the middle of the night and ate a left over cupcake from my daughters birthday party. It had enough frosting on it to send anyone into shock. I don't dump so it really didn't bother me physically, just made me feel like a failure. I am addicted to soda, which my husband still drinks. I have done so well staying away from it until this week and I have had several sips which led me to one big gulp. I know all the bad things that can happen from drinking soda but it was just sitting there calling out my name. And then guilt starts in and I know what a bad road I am putting myself back on. So on top of it being Christmas and my husband and I not getting along I have alot og guilt. So I woke up today thinking it is a new day and I can start over. I am just wondering if anyone else is having the same problems that I am and if they have any suggestions on what to do about it. Christine

First of all STOP beatting yourself up! We are all human and we all have good days and bad days. So you ate a cupcake and drank soda... but you realize that's not making good choices and thats a victory right there! Think of what you would have done PRE-OP! Emotional eatting is the WORST... I used to eat when I got stressed, now I can't so my stress turns into ANXIETY. I refuse to go back on ANY medications so I am doing everythign I can to try on my own, if that doesn't work then I'll try talking to someone and if that doean't work then I will go back on meds. *but we are not there yet* OK here are some things I do maybe one of them can help you..... 1. I don't eat first . I try to drink something first, or chew on a popscile or ice. 2. I go on chat in here.. it's hard to eat and chat. 3. I took up a hobby.. SCRAPBOOKING. I'm making a WLS scrapbook for me. 4. I read profiles and web sites to try and stay motivated. 5. I journal, not often enough but when I feel tht feelign I read what i wrote before and it helps me stay on track. 6. I had to do an appeal, so when I need to I read that. I gives me the POWER to know why I did what I did and helps me get motivated. OK here comes teh TOUGH LOVE *you can send this back to me in a few weeks when I need an @$$ kicking!* 1. Even if you only loose 1 week a month you STILL loose 2. Being upset at your husband and letting it control you is somethign you choose. Now easier said then done, try and ignore it, don't let him effect you and cause you to make bad choices. Remember "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. " 3. You had WLS, there are 1000s out there who want it and can't get it. You owe it to them and yourself to WORK YOUR TOOL! 4 If your goign to go back to old habbits why did you bother to have WLS?? We all knew going in that we had to make changes. FORGET that you don't dump. Make yourself BELIEVE you do.. I've not gone over 13 gm s of sugar yet, I refuse to do it.. i don't want to find out I don't dump. I've just told myself I will end of discussion. YOU CAN DO THIS! DIG DEEP! Do you want to go back to where you where Pre-Op?? Only YOU can make this work! The Drs can fix out insides, but they can't fix our minds.. we have to do that. If you need help doign it, get HELP! Now stand up, head up....... dust yourself off and START AGAIN! I KNOW you have it in you to do it! Erin

Me and my husband are having problems all started way before wls. He just had surgery Tuesday for is sleep apnea. He is driving me nuts. I just try to ignore his ignorance. It brings me down. I know I cant aford to get a divorce. I will lose everthing I have. I dont want to live in a apartment. My grandkids and daughter live here . I cant put them in the streets. My Daughter is in recovery for almost 2 years and is in beauty school. I just try to make it work. I do slip but I pick myself up and start over. That is what you need to do. Keep all the junk out or out of your site. You will be fine. We all make mistakes. You did great until last week, Holidays are hard. As Erin said dust yourself up. Start over. Hugs and Happy Holidays Barb

Hi Christine, What I am doing through this hard time is repeatedly telling myself. "Look your down 60 lbs, it isn't over night but girl you are working your tale off. Keep it going"- Yestarday I slipped up, there is more chocolets and cookies in my company right now I think that the Keeble elves are working overtime. So I decided to have 1 piece of chocolate. I took the time to think about it and decided exactlly what it was I was going to choose, then I reminded myself that last year I would have eaten a pound, and then snuck around cleaning up what else was around. Be realistic, but get ride of the guilt. Also are you on the list that Michael has put together that has given me lots of perspective into what everyone else is up to. I just went through to see what you weight before and now to give you more encouragement- I noticed that your son is playing hockey. My two boys play. The only problem I have is I get so cold now at the rinks I have to way bundle up. It has been fun watching them. My youngest is a goalie and had a great game the other night. Remember were all not perfect, just try your best donna