Distracted...

Okay I know I'm doing the recent surgery, adjusting lifestyle, back to work thing and that it's distracting to me, but I have been given another distraction. My X has decided to sell the house I live in and I have to move in a shorter time frame than I was planning (I don't even know if it's possible since he ruined my credit!) I had been planning to move next summer, after the school year was over, but now I need to find a place ASAP and pretty much uproot the kids in the midde of a school year and place them somewhere else. I have no idea where to go, I don't want to keep moving around either. I want to find a place and have it be home for me and them. It's hard enough knowing that the home where they all had their first steps will no longer be where we live! I hate the house and neighborhood though, so it's not going to be TOO difficult, but will definitely be the "last step" to being totally on my own after this divorce. Talk about a new life here, surgery for weight loss, a new job, and now, a new place to live and 3 kids to help make it a less difficult reality. Those who know me, please, come up with something for me, ideas suggestions, keep in mind I need 3 bedrooms and that it's going to be expensive, and keep in mind that I'm beyond frazzled right now. When I question you it isn't to give you grief, it's to help me figure things out. Have I mentioned that I'm ready to pull out my hair? Save the protein for something else? Okay, I'm getting weird. I'll talk later, hopefully after work when I get my nails done it will relax me some. I was sick this morning (breakfast and I fought and breakfast won.) so I'm not getting to go to choir (hurt my throat when the egg came back out) so I'm going to attempt to rest, I deserve some rest. I am soooo totally stressed here, I need someone to hold me for a while and tell me it will be okay... someone to take care of me for a little bit. I can't stand being the one who takes care of everyone else for too much longer, I feel like I'm going to snap! Love you all, Rachel

Rachel, I feel so bad for you... My daughter is a single mom herself she has 2 kids. I know how you must feel. Do you have family and sibblings. Somebody needs to take you in for a few months so you can regroup. Your ex husband doing this to his kids he must be a sick man. Do you have friends close by. Have you tried to get some public assitance for housing...You need to be stronge for your kids.. They feel your stress. Also are you going to make any money from the house... Have you pleaded with him to give you more time... This is a bad time with christmas comming up. It would not be good for the kids. You need to hire a lawyer and fight this... This is wrong... Do you have papers saying you could live there Hugs to you Barb

you have email!

I thought if you got a divorce and you own a home, it couldn't be sold until the youngest child is 18 years old, (as long as the kids live in the house) or unless you BOTH agree to sell. Did you check with your lawyer?