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Thanks for the post and my response is actually going to be different than everyone else. According to BMI calculator you could go to 130 and still be an ok weight.- though I would have an evaluation of ever thing including your body fat %, bone mass and density etc. I would stop worrying about what everyone else says-- sorry but I also include the people here--- and have your doctor help you with that. If he or she is ok with your weight than good. --and congratulations--- What concerns me with your post is the obsession about wanting to lose more, or even just an over concern. I know we are all stressed about going back to where we were. I have just gained a few pounds and am just dying thinking about it. Please don't stuff yourself to make others happy. There are ways to correctly gain, tone and maintain. Just eating wrong isn't a good path. Get good numbers from your doctor and work with a nutritionist to get a good diet. Learning to deal with our body images is a very big deal, one thing I think we all over look in our quest for the "perfect numbers" watch out and if it becomes to all consuming try to work with someone- at our surgery group we have small groups that meet every other week to deal with these kinds of things. By the way your not rubbing it in our faces it is good to see success- also like others when I started to drop below my friends weight- they also said I was to skinny. I can still stand to lose 23 pounds to my drs. ideal middle weight..... good luck and still congratulations. donna

Hey Christine! You aren't rubbing anyone's face in anything. Your experiences are results of WLS just like everyone else and it's good to hear what you are going through. I'm 5'10 also. I started out at 298. My original goal was 180 and then I put it down to 165 when I realized 180 was doable. at 165 (ok it is really 167.5 right now) I'm within normal BMI for someone our height. As are you by the way. I'd love to stabilize around 163, but am not going to obsess about it. I think you look healthy in the picture. Certainly skinny, but not anorexic. I think the issue is not so much how you look but if you are healthy. If you are getting your protein and your bloodwork is fine, tell the people who are making comments to buzz off and go get a modeling job. The point is to be healthy! If you are living off 2 pieces of celery a day, I'd be worried about anorexia. Otherwise I wouldn't. I must admit, I'd love to have your problem....

Hi Christine, It's not an "in your face" type of group here....Some of us are trying to still get to goal, some of us are at goal, etc. Don't feel badly about coming here...We love to hear great progress. Have you been to a dietitian to talk about how to stop losing? Do you want to stop losing? I think you look fantastic! Just keep eating well, get ALL of your vitamins in (is your blood work up to date and at good levels?) and keep your visits with your surgeon... Congrats! Paula

Christine, I understand how you feel. I don't post a lot because sometimes I feel guilty that I am at my goal weight when others are still trying to lose. I worked hard to get where I am but I just did not have as much to lose as some people or lost faster than others. I passed my Dr's goal of 150 by 20lbs but that was just a goal she set for me that would be an acceptable weight it was not set in stone. I talked to her about it when I wanted to go lower and she told me going to 130 was ok but no lower. According to BMI I think I could go as low as about 115-120 and be ok but I listened to my Dr and stopped at 130. I have people telling me sometimes that I am too thin or not to lose any more weight but everyone has been pretty supportive. I don't have the problem of feeling like I"m not good enough for other people like you mentioned I only have the problem of feeling like I'm not good enough for ME. I look at myself in the mirror and can still find lots of areas I'd like to change. I wish I could lose more weight from my hips and thighs area but it won't come off there without coming from the top half of my body and even I can see that I am thin there. You can see my breastbone, collar bones, some ribs, etc...I don't want to look sick and it's not worth that just to have thinner thighs. I have to contantly remind myself though because I still hate those parts. I am wearing a size 4 in jeans and an EXTRA small in scrubs at work but yet I can still feel this way about myself. So I understand how you feel with wanting to be thinner and thinner. Just try to do like I am doing though and say it's ok for me to think "I'd like to be thinner" but just don't let yourself act on it. You are thin enough and you don't want to go overboard. But talk to your Dr and ask them to draw the line for you like mine did, then don't cross it. They are the experts. Tell everyone else to take a flying leap, your health is most important.

Christine, I haven't been here in months, so do not feel bad. I met and exceeded my goal before my one year anniversary. I got down to 128 during August last year, wearing a size 4, and still felt that I looked bad. I am now at 138, and am stressing over the weight gain, although like you, I was shooting for 150 and a size 10. I wear 6 now, some 8's, and am not happy that my 4s do not fit. I am back online here now, because I find myself really depressed. Funny how I thought that everything in my life would be better if I was skinny... Not the case. Same issues, different issues. For me, there are other things besides food that has become a problem. One of those things is alcohol. I never drank before, as I hated the way it made me feel (sleepy with 1/2 glass wine). Now, I can drink a big glass of wine and feel great! Then, about an hour later, the feeling is gone (like I never had it), so I have another... This is really concerning me, and it sucks. Some nights, I have 4 glasses of wine... OMG! I know this is a problem and I have to change NOW... I also know that I am drinking calories and sugar that will make me gain... and I NEVER EVER want to be heavy again. It is amazing to feel "normal" again. I was like you, only heavy as an adult, so I remembered the real "me" buried in there, and now I feel like this has always been me....and forget how easy it is to gain. I too had lots of people tell me that I look sick, and to be honest, I dont think I look that great either. I think I look OLD. I liked the way my face and hair (when I had it!) looked at 175lbs versus now. Perhaps that is normal for this stage? Well, I am rambling. I need to update my profile, if for nothing else than to put my thoughts in writing as a way to "face up" and be accountable for my poor behavior right now. But I am scared to mess with it and lose it all...another day perhaps. For now, just know that you are not alone. Denise 253/150/138

So sorry your addiction turned to that. Mine did to. I turned to alcohole smoking smoking pot doing nerve pills and and sex. Yes thats happened to me. I got off of all of that, Now I will have a drink every now and then. I just got so wild. Now i have a weaker heart and im working on getting it strong. Just take care of yourself Hugs Barb