Divorce is filed

Husband moved out 2 weeks ago. God it is peaceful around here. He is giving me the house everything in it and 400 a month allomeny for 6 years. Im not moving in with me boyfriend and now boyfriend is pissed off. Oh well. I need to live alone and not put all my eggs in one basket. Glad this is almost done. Also im changing my name to my maiden name. barbara ann hensley will be my name Talk ;later Barb

Barb, Am hoping this will bring you peace and am pleased you are thinking more about what you NEED rather than what boyfriend WANTS!! GOOD FOR YOU GIRL> Take care and Take care of YOU!! Hugs from Germany, Jacqueline

I'm glad you are feeling some peace now...take care, Pam

You sound like a ton brick has been lifted off of your shoulders. This is the first post in a long time like this from you! It's still a tough time, but take one day, one moment at a time and you'll get through this. Don't fall under the pressure from boyfriend to move in. You both still can be a "couple" and live apart. You need this time in your life to become an "independant person" and be able to do things on your own and not always have a MAN around! You're stong, you can do it...Why would you lose your house to move in with him? What if it doesn't work out? You'll have no where to go...Stick to your guns and be assertive with him...he'll respect you more for it in the long run, believe me. And if he still gives you trouble, kick him in the ass and find someone new! Maybe this less stress will do wonders for your heart, too... Good luck, and keep us posted on YOU! Paula

Sounds like you have finally started to breath....Take time for yourself...Good Luck Sandy

Glad things are moving in a positive direction for you. Take the time to live on your own for a while. I had my own place before I married and it was the best time for me to reflect on who I was. I didn't live alone for a long time, less than a year, but just enough to feel strong about who I am. Feeling lonely once in a while makes you appriectate when you have some one around. good luck with everything donna

Barb, I've always said the pre-divorce is the worse!! I knew my marrige was over, so did he, but the day he moved out - ugh, is terrible. Seeing him pack and drive away, I was a mess. You sound like I felt back them - just relief and well, resolution I guess. You can do this. Pleaset take it slow Barb, don't jump from the frying pan into the fire. Be sure of what you want, and then wait for it. Not what someone else wants! love you Barb, donna

donna, whooo hoooo! ******y mama pix! Love it! I hope I look as fantastic as you in a few years! Hubby must be jumping your bones on a daily basis! paula

Hi Paula, ha ha -- that is funny. Thank you so much for the compliment. You have QUITE a few years to go to catch up with me, honey!! I can't believe I'm going to be 64 in March -- I don't feel like it, that's for sure. Oh, and I had the nicest compliment yesterday!! Someone approached me about entering the Mrs Virginia Senior contest!! Ha ha -- that was a good one for my ego!! I laughed and said 'does it involve wearing a bathing suit and walking across a stage'!! My knee is good, but every once in a while I do the Frankenstein wallk (when I get tired). I guess that would be a true picture of a 64 year old woman!! Flabby thighs, dragging her leg, but yeah, that big mouthy smile all the way!!! And ah yes, I have been getting lots of attention from my hubby. Which is so strange because I've mentioned before that he has always been the 'hot' one of our twosome, and now HE is thinking that I am!!! That's nice!! Thanks again, love donna