Sexual Appetite

Has anyone else developed this big time sex drive. I dont know if it is menapause or what. Or if its because i feel sexy or what. but its driving me nuts. I know i always come up with off the wall **** but this is so true. it has gotton so bad this last month. also i noticed im sweating alot with hot flashes. think it is memapause. im 49. Or think im just in my nprime and need some good love thanks barb

YES YES YES! hey barb -- I am 47 - I met a man about 6 weeks ago and we've hit if off REALLY well...I can't get enough of him...now granted I'm not sure if it's menopause or if I'm just not used to having someone that wants me as much as he does but it sure as hell is a nice feeling! My sex drive has gone wild and I'm not fighting it! and YES we are in our prime!!! As for the hot flashes ... OMG I get them also - I haven't experienced the "I want to rip my clothes off at night while I'm sleeping" yet but during the day while sitting at my desk I will be fine one minute and dying of the heat the next...it's horrible...BUT I think I have found a fix for it...my daughter is in nursing (OB/GYN) and she told me that if I used Soy milk instead of regular milk I wouldn't get as many flashes...so I tried it...I went out and bought the Silk Soy milk and use it in my coffee (I don't drink milk) .. I started it about 2 weeks ago and believe it or not .. I haven't had a hot flash in over a week...(and I Thought she was nuts ) try it...maybe it will work for you! (it doesn't taste all the different in my coffee either - I don't even notice) let me know if the Soy milk helps! hugssssss...Linda

i'm 32 but defintely have seen my sexual appetite return with a vengeance. i hadn't had sex in oh probably 6 years until just recently (october) and remember how much i missed it. i think i feel sexy, that's why i'm enjoying it. i don't have nor do i want to have sex when i feel BIG. it's fun to go shopping but still depressing to look at my ass in the three way mirrors at nordstrom's! bleh! i try to stay away from those mirrors when my ass shows! there's no good way around it. i still find i like it semi-dark when i have sex. still have to get over that one. amy

hey - you're further than I am - I want it pitch black! my ass and my breasts are my depression...skin skin and more skin -- but I have to tell you ... the man I have been "seeing" says that the way we view ourselves is just that...it's the way we see us...everyone is extremely critical of themselves and we are our toughest critic... but I do feel sexy now - it's a completely different world for me...but we'll keep the lights out for a while!! hugssssss...Linda

I have always had a much higher sex drive than my husband, but I was secretly hoping that if I lost the weight he might actualy want to have sex with me- at least a little bit more often. NO SUCH LUCK!!!! If something ever happened that my husband and I split up I don't know if I would ever feel comfortable being with someone else because of all the skin and my lack of breasts. Christine

I think we're all a bit more "sexed" now that we've got a ton of weight off of us and feel better about it. Gosh, between Bob and me, we've lost 220 lbs and sex is now once again FABULOUS!!! Watch that you don't transfer your food/drug/alcohol addiction over to a sex one...it can happen....but in the meantime...have fun! Paula

Paula, i Know i have said this before. After the holidays i am getting divorced. My heart Dr on dec 12 had a long talk to me. He said. My heart should not be in the shape it is in. and flat out said. What is making you so unhappy. I told him my husband makes me so stressed and so unhappy. I also him that my daughter and her 2 children living here is also stressful. becaue David is so grumpy with tim. He said Barb !!!! Your 49 years young. Your beautiful. you need to find happeniss. He aid ditch the husband and help the daughter move on with her life and find happeniss. he said if i do this i could live a much longer life. He said i am at a age. i could turn all of this around. he said my lifestyle now is not good on my heart. i have stopped drinking and smoking. and im ready to move on. And the sex drive i have is not for my husband either. Im sure you already new that. im moving in with my boyfriend after the holidays. Daughter kniows this. she is taking her tax refund and getting a apartment. take care barb

I guess I am in the minority here.. my husband wants it more, ut me.. it HURTS me.... my thighs triple over in skin and pinches, it just isnt comfortable anymore... makes it hard for me...

Hi Barb, as usual you give us interesting stuff to think of!! Well I will say that at 63 it hasn't diminished with age thankfully (I hope my daughters never read this they will die!!) and the wls has only made it better and sexier. Yes, life is good. Oh, and I don't' even have to worry about getting pregnant!! You can see the generation I come from -- birth control pills, ah no, and don't ever ever ever believe the old 'I'll pull it out in time' line!! I don't think so! love donna