Still NOT satisfied!!!

Hello everyone... I haven't been on here for awhile. I am currently only 4 pounds away from my goal weight of 135 pounds My surgery was 9/20/05. I have lost 159 pounds. I am very proud of myself. BUT! I am not satisfied.. I want to be smaller. Is anyone dealing with this issue? Everyone tells me that I need to stop loosing weight because they are afraid that I will get too skinny. I don't see this! I don't think that I am obsesive about it. I am only 5'3, and actually 125 pounds is a good weight for me. My BMI is 24.6 which is a normal weight. I am so scared that I will end up weighing what I did last year. Michelle Allard

Michelle, I started out with a goal of 145 and it kept changing little by little til now I want to be at 135. I'm only 4-5 lbs away from that, and I'm worried that I'll want to be smaller when I reach that goal too. I think its all connected with how we see ourselves. I still don't see myself as being small like people tell me I am, therefore I feel like if I lose 5 more pounds I will actually be small like I want to be. We still have this goal or look that we are after, even though we may be there in reality, our perception of ourselves hasn't caught up and we still want to lose. Maybe it would be good to get a recent picture and compare it to a picture from last year. Remind yourself how far you've really come. That usually helps me see myself more clearly. Good luck!

I SO understand. I'm 3 lbs from goal, and all of a sudden, it seems that 145 seems TERRIBLY overweight and what in the world was I thinking setting 145 as a goal...it seems I am the most disgusted when I sit on the toilet and see all this huge belly as well as my thighs that just hang down around the john. And really, whoever has heard that 145 is a slim person's weight? not me...needs to be more like 125. But of course I am hearing from everyone that I have lost enough weight. My BMI won't be normal til I weight 137, so I guess that's my next goal... Thanks... Pam 5'2" 282/148/145/137?

You are not alone trust me. My original goal (along with my Dr's goal) was 150. When I got to about 160 I knew 10 more lbs was not going to make me happy and I lowered my goal to 140. When I got to 145 I knew 140 was not going to make me happy and I lowered it to 130. Now I am 3lbs from that and I am still not fully satisfied but I've come to realize I probably never will be. If you think of most "normal" thin women you know, all women have issues with their body usually. I think it is normal to always want to lose "just 5 more lbs" it is just realizing that we can't keep doing it. I have had many people tell me I don't need to lose any more weight (including my Dr) but I have a good friend who is a few inches taller than me and weighs 120-124 and I don't think she looks anorexic or anything. So I feel like if I got to that weight it would be ok. I am however NOT setting any more goals, my goal will remain at 130 and when I reach that I will consider myself "at goal" however I won't necessarily be trying to stop my loss either. If I lose a few more pounds after that it's fine with me but I won't be "trying" to lose them I guess....or at least that's the plan this week LOL. Stacy 265/133/130