I'm Scared!

I was watching celebrity fitclub and Carney Wilson was on it she had the surgery in 2000. and she has gained her weight back, well not all of it but she is on there trying to loose weight. And Tina Yothers is also on there, and her mother had it and she also gained back her weight. I am scared if they fail, what if i do... I don't just want to be skinny for a short time......... I don't want to fail at this but what if I do... Carney did stick up for the surgery though.....she said something like .... this wasn't an easy way, it is actually very hard....and I started snacking ...into my old habits...and gained weight back. I don't want to fail......I mean I am doing ok..what if this doesn't work in the end... I didn't go through all this to fail.. this is a life changing surgery.. I am sure we all feel this way. I don't know .....

I worry about it all the time too pumpkin. I've decided that I have to be accountable to myself for this. The only way for me to do it is to make sure that I weigh myself and if the scale creeps up I have to take action. I stopped weighing myself the last how many ever times I've lost weight and I started wearing sweat pants and the next thing I knew I was 300lbs. I'm committed to this for the long haul, it's not a diet it's a way of life. I think if we stick together, we'll be fine. Micha

I really do think that we need to stick together and let each other know exactly how we feel so we can work this t o g e t h e r ! ! We are a team...just like on ceb fit club .. we are our own stars!!

Heidi, First of all, Carnie gained her weight back because she got pregnant. She openly says that she ate all of the wrong things during it. She gave herself "a permission slip" to binge cause she was pregnant. Thus, gaining over 60 lbs. Then, after her daughter was born, she didn't get right back into eating how she should have. Then, she checked herself recently into rehab for alcohol and drug abuse, because she shifted her eating addictions for alcohol and drugs (something she always did anyways prior to WLS). If you read her books, you'll see where she was prior to surgery and right afterwards. After her daughter was born, she wrote a cookbook! And not a WLS one either! You can tell her head was not in the right spot. I've read and have seen interviews with/about her regarding this and she absolutely defends WLS, but also mentions that she should have been getting the proper psychological care during these tough times too. She grew up in a weird place. She was obese all of her life and was also very spoiled. Food was her reward and escape from all of the weird things that were going on around her. As far as Tina Yothers, and her mom. That's her mom..that's her life. Don't worry about this pertaining to your life. You have to make your WLS journey YOUR OWN...don't compare others to what you're doing. Different lives here. Just vow to yourself that you're going to work this program and use your tool to better yourself. If you slip and fall off, get right back on. Use your support systems to guide you. Yell out to us if you are scared. You did lap band, right? Have you ever read Bette Blackwell's profile on here? Now she's one to look up to as your mentor. Contact her. SHe's done so well, but if you read, has had some bumps along the way just like most of us. Don't fret...these shows are on tv to entertain, not to scare. I hope in the end, the fit club helps all of them to lose the weight they need to lose. Keep your chin up! paula

This is good to know about the pregnancy and addiction.......I did hear her say about pregnancy but not the addiction. I do want to use my tool the best way I can hoping that it doesn't fail. I will keep my chin up...i like being thinner....but i also vow to stop the snacking cuz thats just not a good thing... thank you paula (you look so different i feel like I am talking to someone new)

Disregard the Bette Blackwell portion. I thought you had lap band, and someone on my CT board did lap band with great success! sorry. p

Heidi, Talk about God's providence!! I went to see my surgeon yesterday and my dear sweet husband became a tattle tale!!! (which he had told me he would)...he told my surgeon every bad thing I did...and now you post about gaining back weight on the very subject that my dh has been nagging me about...SNACKING! I will be trying to stop snacking now...I have been snacking a little during the day, but at night I have gotten pretty bad (I love popcorn and frozen grapes...notice there is no protein in either...) about snacking... My dh will be reading this a little later so he will be holding me accountable on my snacking. I will also be cutting my cafe mocha addiciton out...my surgeon told me that it is too high in fat and could be one of the reasons (along with my snacking) that my weight loss is slowing. I am going to have to learn how to drink a latte with fat free milk...yikes! Thanks for the post, Heidi...it is amazing how God works in all of our lives--even through friends so far away...we can struggle together! ~~em

snacking is terrible for us all....but it could be our down fall....we have to be strong together... we will win this battle with obesity.. I have learned that my life has not gotten easier, like for some reason I thought it would but i do feel so much better. I am grateful for this amazing tool.

I just wanted to say 2 things: First, I was told (because I like snacking too) that whatever I put in my mouth make sure its with a protein, if I eat a cracker make sure theres peanut buttter or cheese with it. Second is I love coffee too and I found at wal-mart a Hillsboro Coffee (french vanilla) that is made with splenda and is fat free and its awesome so maybe you won't have to give to much of if you can change the flavor to french vanilla I haven't found a mocha one that I like yet. Just putting my two cents worth in ::

Heidi, I think we're all scared!! We hear the horror stories, because, excuse me, that is what the media likes to hype!! You don't hear all the success stories, except on boards like this. And if I see one more headline 'So and So lost weight the right way, without surgery'. Give me a break!! Yes, I know we will probably have a 'bounce' but it doesn't have to be a lot. And we all are so much more aware of what we do now. I like to have popcorn at night, too. I try to count it into my daily calories. Is that good, probably not. On another note, I wanted to watch the fitness club but didn't know when it was on. So it's on Tuesday night? I'll try to find it. We'll be successful. We know the pitfalls. We'll do this -- really Heidi, we will!! have a good day beautiful girl!! love donna