Doctors Appt.**~

Yesterday I went in for my 10 month. I was down 3lbs from last month (which I accept) My doctor came in to the room and Said " how are you" I said of course "alright" (while i am fidgeting with my keychain) Just alright, mutters Dr. Novak... Well Yeah I say.. Your doing great you should be doing better than alright... He sits down and starts writing in my file, I am like, I hope he's not writing that. He asked If I had any problems and I said no. I told him that I am still obese but another 5lbs and I wont be....he said "no your not" and he had to get out his little chart and check......and of course I was right cuz i always check my bmi in here so I already had the exact figure. Then He told me that he is very proud of me. THat i am doing so well and that I am a very beautiful women. He talked about the tummy tuck.. and when it was almost over, he said...the only problem i see is that you dont smile enough... I said "that doesn't mean I am not happy its just the way my expression looks.." He said (now this was funny)Thats because you have always been the FAT Girl in the corner so you didnt let anyone see you smile because you werent happy with your self...I was like OK.... I just thought it was the way my face looks when i am not smiling...LOL......He's funny... I didnt know him my whole life... I didnt always hate myself...but maybe some where he is right... I don't know what do you all think... Let me know... my loving september family... PS I am constatly telling people.....about my september family ...and how much I count on them for support. Heidi

I think we haven't smiled neerly enough for way too long. My dentist told me that my face will change as I work those muscles more becouse any muscle you use changes shape. Maybe there is something to this smile theory if two different professionals told two different wls patients the same day.... Either that or we are getting realllyyyyyyy cute and rich professional men are starting to notice...lmao Hugs, Shel

I think they just think we are really cute my dh said the same thing!

Heidi, It seems like you're a bit down. Are you? Did you have a higher expectation for yourself for that appointment? What didn't you tell the doctor that you wish you had? I think you've done such a fantastic job. Why are you beating yourself up just because you're BMI still says that you're obese? What was your BMI to start? Look how far you've come. Someday, you'll not be in the obese category, baby steps. Hang in there. I'm having a bummer day today. I'm tired of feeling ill this week, yesterday was the 12th anniversary of my first husband dying, my kids are driving me out of my freaking mind (it's been a LONG summer), and DH thinks I've been nasty to him today (I was, but I'm in a *****y mood), and on top of it all, I got my period. SO, I think we're all entitled to our so called "bad" days. But, don't let them linger for too long. Rejoice in how far you've come and don't dwell on what you have left to go. You'll get there. paula

I know I have done a good job so far. but i know I could be doing better. I slack on the exercising. I dont have excuses for it I just dont feel like it when I have other things to do. Yes I do wish I was further down than i am right now, but i do accept what i have done and I am proud of myself.

Heidi First of all let me say thank you to you. You have been a great support. Sometimes here on this board i feel ignored, but you always respond with a little something so thank you thank you. I think maybe what the doctor said was right. I know i have scowl wrinkles on my forehead. I have people tell me all the time after they get to know me that they were afraid to approach me at first. LOL im never sure how to take that. They say your so nice and not like id thought you would be at all. Its gonna take awhile for our heads to catch our bodies success. At least thats what i think. As far as the bmi goes. Ive always thought it was pretty restrictive. Not alot of people actually fall in a normal bmi range. We were just discussing this last night. The stats the doctor gave me at the beginning of this journey were that only about 20-25 % of patients will reach their ideal body weight. The majority of people will lose 75-80% of their excess weight. So just think about that only 20% reach that ideal and girl your almost there. If that doesnt make you smile i dont know what will. You have a good day and smile smile smile. Tammy O

Thank you Tammy. I have heard the same things over the years.. I never thought that it had anything to do with my weight though.. I am proud of myself.. thanks for your support too.. Heidi

Heidi I know exactly how you feel!! People tell me all the time I need to smile and I am like I AM!!! But they are like "no your not." I know I am disappointed in not losing like I thought I was going to, but then I think I have sabotaged myself too. I am a social and emotional eater and so I think I am getting back into those stupid routines of nibbling more than I should. I wish I had an angel from the very beginning but I never was able to get one no one responded to be one for me so sometimes I feel alone in this journey and I just keep trying to reach out and read everyone elses post to get my answer that are needed. Just keep on working on those smiling muscles hmm maybe we should look in the mirror and smile and see what we get when we think we are happy and smiling. "someone once told me it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile" I am not sure if I beleive that ::

I've had people tell me I need to smile, too - and this is after I've sent them pictures in which I thought I WAS smiling. Do you ever feel like you need to relearn what happiness is? --BT

I do feel that way to relearn it...... but not sure If i can really relearn something I am not sure I ever really knew.. I mean there were times in my life when I was truly happy.....(The birth of my beautiful children) but I dont want that feeling back