Okay !!!!

Husband moved back today. He is going to help me get my life back together again. I fell hard when he moved out. It is like I gave so much up and lost so much of myself. We are going to counseling tomorrow.. He is acting like the man I married. Maybe this is what we needed. I feel secure tonight. Am I weak. We worked outside all day. He took the day off for us to be together. He is being wonderful. Maybe us being apart is what we needed to find our love for each other. I just cant give him up without trying everything I can to make it work. 16 years is along time. Maybe now since he knows everything he will change his ways. He wants me to get some help. This surgery really does change things. Hugs all barb

I was so glad to come on and find you had such wonderful news, lets hope the next 16 yrs are just as good if not even better then the last. It takes a very strong couple to realize whats wrong and work together to bring it back to what it was or what you both wanted it to be, May the angels bless you many times over. Hugs, Shel

I'll be thinking of you. Pam

Great news. It takes two to make it work. I am glad to see that your both going to counseling, when DH and I went for a short time we rediscovered our love in one an other and how to express it better. Good luck and my thoughts are with you both. donna

Hey Barb! I am glad things are working out for you. a few years ago when I had lost some weight, I really changed and started doing things I do regreat- (some of it) I liked the attention and the more I got the better it made me feel. Me and my husband always fight and always have...... I know its not normal.. but thats how we are... But anyhow a few years ago, i was having alot of fun... but now that it is "out of my system" I am doing good with my new weightloss...... I don't have them urges...to get attention......me and hubby still fight.......I mean somewhere i thought that once i started getting smaller, that we would get along better, but really that didnt happen.. He's still the same a$$ that he has always been... What I am trying to say is I thing what you were going through is normal... It is a big adjustment.. these husbands some dont know how to handle it either....but in that area mine has been great.. Good luck with everything Barb Heidi

good luck with everything I wish you the very best! Sometimes it takes a separation from each other to realize just how much you need/want each other... I hope it all works out for you! Linda

Barb - I know what you're going through - I'm having some marital issues myself. I've decided that I need to do what makes me happy, I'm just not sure what that is right now. It sounds as if you're on the right track - my only hope is that it makes you happy. Micha

Barb, Very glad to hear that you are trying to work things out again. Even if things don't work out at least you can say that you tried everything and it just wasn't meant to be. Better to try an know things won't work than ten years from now wonder if you really gave it your all. I wish you the best of luck and hope you are happy. Christine

Barb, you've been through so much honey I know you are in a spin. I wish I could be there and just put my arms around you -- but feel my concern for you, and know that we are care for you and just want you to be happy and content -- which is what we all want for ourselves, I guess!! love to you Barb, donna .

Hey Barb I'm glad that you and your husband are going to try to work it out.I do know that 16 years is a long time my husband and I have been together for 15 years and sometimes we have our ups and downs but fortunantly my weightloss has made us even closer and I could not imagine my life without him but you have to make sure that you are happy cause in the end thats what really matters.I hope everything works out for you and your hubby and you live a long and happy life Tonya King