Getting to know...

This weeks getting to know is ... Shelly T. Please read with everyone else her profile. Then let other know what you find fascinating about this lovely person. It was a fun week for me last week, I got to reflect on a lot of things that I have been through in the past nine months. When the week is over Shelly will then have the pleasure of picking some one new for us all to learn about. to all donna

WOW, Shelly has surely been through a lot in a year...She's truly a strong person. I don't know how I could get through so many life changing events and not freak out! I didn't realize that Shelly had agoraphobia at one time....I did too...years ago...My panic attacks got so bad that I was literally afraid to leave my own home. Your world becomes very isolated and small. It took a lot of hard work and therapy to help me learn that nothing bad was going to happen to me if I were to venture out alone. I still have panic disorder, but not to such a great extent. Shelly, I enjoyed your profile. You really need to get that century card. You earned it, girlfriend. You deserve it. The note your hubby posted to you was truly sweet and from the heart. You do have a wonderful man in Rick. I hope he's home to you soon. Paula

Hi Paula, Trust me I did freak out many times, some to the point they wanted to sign me in someplace 3 different times. I do still have the Agraphobia, If there are more then 4 people in the room I freak ,when I go to Dr. apt and stuff I try to be the first appt in the morning or right after lunch otherwise i wait in a hall corner or the restroom, most place I have apts now just take me back to one of the rooms and I wait my turn there but i sure have come a long way from checking mail every 3 days and only at 4 am so I was sure no one at all would be around, it was so bad at one point I wouldn't even answer the phone when it rang, just set and think of all the horid things that happened if I did answer it. Now I screan calls then answer. As far as things with Hubby , we are hopefully looking at the 2nd or 3rd week of Nov if all goes well. He has been that sweet man most of the time I have known him, he has this magical way of making me fall in love with him over and over again. We talked today and decided we arn't going to be useing precaution when he gets home, we will leave it up to God becouse by then I'll be 14 months out , not 4and if it takes a few tries i'll be about 18 months out anyway...hehee Hugs, Shel

Hey - just wanted to let you know that I've had a crazy morning getting ready for my daughter and grandsons visit. I haven't had a chance to read about Shel yet, but definitely look forward to it. I'm basicially running out the door to go to the airport. Talk to you all later! love donna

Enjoy the family Donna, I been with this board almost 10 months I'm sure I'll still be around when your done...hehe

Shelly what a tough year for you. I don't know what I would do if I lost my mom. She has just undergone LapBand a week ago and if anything had happened I would have felt so guilty. I know that your husband is a Red Wings fan- hope you enjoy hockey too. My son has asked if he plays goalie for Detroit (his fav. team) would I be willing to move up there.... we have dreamed this one out. I also am a spiritualist. I have attended services on and off through out the past year, though haven't joined a church full time as of yet. My congregational back round still sticks with me. I love your birds. We own a ****atail(sp) also- would love to get babies but with the dog and cat around it just wouldn't be right. donna

Well, I enjoy spending time with hubby and he doesn't get annoyed when I ask Questions, So yeah I guess I can say I do enjoy hockey season, Even if I have no clue whatsoever about why those men chase that little thing with crooked sticks and beat each other sencless...lol I haven't joined a church yet either but I do go now and then, I go when I feel let to if that makes sence, and wouldn't ya know it last time i went the sermon was on no matter how bad things seem we have the most strenghth when we think we are at the weekest becouse thats when we rely on other sourses of a higher form for that strenghth. We have 1 dog 2 cats, and 5 ****atiels, they all generally do thier own thing, except when the youngest of the tiels (nelly) decides it's time to tease the dog then she hangs upside down and screaches and flaps till the dog is spazzing and barking...lol, but then the dog waits till all is calm and then spazzes and barks to get the bird going so it evens out. kids gotta love em. Shel

Thank you Donna

I finally had time to sit down and read Shel's profile. I feel I knew Shel pretty well before this, as we have exchanged emails. However, in reding her profile, it struck me the long and hard battle this lady went through to get surgery, and even at this point in her weight loss journey, she is still motivated and strong and knows what she wants. She is a determined young lady. The other thing I learned about Shel is that she has a knack for writing!! She could be a poet. And the butterflies that she has on her profile -- that is you Shel, coming out of your cocoon and being a beautiful butterfly. I am glad I got to know you better Shel! I plan on reading it again as I know I missed things!! love donna

Hi Ddonna, Thank you for the nice words. I dreamed once that I had a tatoo of a tree branch with a cacoon hanging from it and a buttrfly half emerged, and knowing the story of the butterfly I knew this would be a journey I would have to ultamatly fight for on my own to have the strenghth of growing from the experience. It's a wonderful thing to know that although there is no one who can pull me from the cacoon there are plenty of people watching , encuraging, and supporting the transformation along the way. Some days I don't know how I would have gotten this far without the support of this board and the family I have come to know here. If you like my writing here is something you might also enjoy.. http://www.geocities.com/meshelhasapples/ Hugs, Shel