I'm struggling...

I know many of us are, but I thought I'd vent a little to get the bad tapes to stop playing in my head. I've been at the same weight for about a month -- 1 lb shy of century club and 20 lbs shy of goal. I look pretty good if I do say so myself (and based on the compliments ), and I'm in a size 10, which was actually the goal size I had equated to the goal weight. So my motivation has been kind of weak. But I am TERRIFIED of ending up back on the same weight gain spiral I've always gone on as soon as I successfully lost weight in the past. Anyone else in the same place and need to commiserate? Anyone been here and successfully jump started again? Let me know!

Hello New You!! Cute name. Listen, we're all in the same place!! It's the 8 month slump. But we'll get through it - just hang in and keep trying. Oh, and I just posted an interesting article you might find relevant. I worry about the same thing - I have always been able to lose weight, never of course this amount, but then I regain. I can't maintain. And a size 10 little girl, that is awesome. You want to lose 20 more pounds - is that reasonable for you? I know I always think I want to lose more but then I have to remember, now what can I reasonably maintain and have a life!! You'll be fine - just stick with it! love donna

Hello New You! I am so totally in the same place with you, and so many that had the surgery about the same time. I'm 4 pounds from goal and just this last week reached the century mark. I really am in need of a support group because the mental and emotional challenges are getting to me. Often I go to bed after feeling I've eaten too much and just know my new clothes aren't going to fit in the morning. Even though I've done so well so far, I live in fear of gaining back the weight, because it's what always happened. I've made significant changes in my lifestyle, excercising 5 times a week and such but my mind remembers how it was and is slow on learning how it is. I rely on the support of this forum and others and attend a local Bariatric Support Group monthly. I'm scared too but work each day at getting past this. Thanks for the post. Sydney

Dont give up!!!! I did stay at 187 for what seemed like forever then would drop a lb here or there. Well over the course of 5 days last week i dropped to 174. Who knows how this works. I didnt change anything ive been following my new eating style all along. I do have an occassional something im not "suppose to" My feeling is we can have these things we just must learn moderation. I didnt do anything magical to jump start it. I think your body just decides to let go. Like it says ok shes not kidding here shes still feeding us we can give up a few more lbs. Im in a size 12 the size i was in when i weighed 155 way back when. Tells me im carrying alot more muscles on this old body than i use to. Keep on going remember this is a life change not a diet we september losers still have approximately 9-10 months of losing left . So keep the chin up. Tammy O PS now i suppose ill be stuck at 174 forever lol and it will drive me nuts and you guys will have to perk me up so be prepared.

I'm in a similar place but am reacting differently to it. I've lost 110 pounds and am 20 from goal. My rate of loss has slowed significantly. But somehow...I'm ok with it..At least today. I feel like I'm at a weight I never ever thought I'd be at again. I look and feel good...I like my clothes....AND I've got 9 more months until the dreaded window closes. Ok I really want to be at goal for my year surgerversary...but.....it isn't impossible. I've had some compliance with diet issues but nothing insurmountable....You will get there....just hang in there.

Im worring about us who are at goal or nearing goal. What happens to us in the next 9 months. Do we keep losing to until we look frail and terrible. No curves just bones??? We will find out I gue Take Care Barb

I am so glad I went on line today. I have been feeling disguested lately because I have not lost anything in a while now. I have not gained but I have not lost. At least I know now this seems to be normal. I still have 50 pounds to go so I have a long road ahead of me yet and I was hoping to loose at least 30 more pounds by October for my Niece's wedding. It does not look like it is in the cards. I weigh 206 but in a size 18. My PCP would have sworn that I weighed around 180 when I saw him last. I guess it pays off being big boned and tall. I hope we jump start again real soon. I am going to try and increase my exerciing regime. Maybe that will help.